Sorry for this lengthy post, but I need some help.
I have known for a long time my Boyfriend has had an internet porno addiction. At first, I thought the porn viewing would enhance our sex life. For him to see how to touch a woman and to make a woman feel awesome. But that was not the case. We would go weeks and months without sex, but I would see he was viewing porn on the computer every day that I was at work and he was at home alone. We have had many conversations and arguments regarding his viewing issues. And his non ability in maintaining an erection during sex. So much so, that I asked him to see a doctor about it. Wondering if he had low testosterone levels. He said he ask the doctor and all came out fine.
So I have always wondered why he can not maintain an erection. Is it that he just doesn't find me attractive anymore. We have been together for over 4 years now. At first our sex life was great. We could do (or I could do) all different sex positions during sex and have a lot of fun in the process. But now, sorry to be so frank, even giving him a BJ does not get him hard. And when he does get hard, when he enters me he loses his erection.
I have googled this issue for over 2 years now and spoke with my doctor for advice. I just found this website and am hoping for some direction on how to approach him regarding the issue of porn addiction and ED. I do love him, but don't know how long this relationship can progress because of this issue. And to make matters worse, he now has a smartphone and is viewing porn on his phone at work.
Any help on how to start a conversation with him would be greatly appreciated.
I have known for a long time my Boyfriend has had an internet porno addiction. At first, I thought the porn viewing would enhance our sex life. For him to see how to touch a woman and to make a woman feel awesome. But that was not the case. We would go weeks and months without sex, but I would see he was viewing porn on the computer every day that I was at work and he was at home alone. We have had many conversations and arguments regarding his viewing issues. And his non ability in maintaining an erection during sex. So much so, that I asked him to see a doctor about it. Wondering if he had low testosterone levels. He said he ask the doctor and all came out fine.
So I have always wondered why he can not maintain an erection. Is it that he just doesn't find me attractive anymore. We have been together for over 4 years now. At first our sex life was great. We could do (or I could do) all different sex positions during sex and have a lot of fun in the process. But now, sorry to be so frank, even giving him a BJ does not get him hard. And when he does get hard, when he enters me he loses his erection.
I have googled this issue for over 2 years now and spoke with my doctor for advice. I just found this website and am hoping for some direction on how to approach him regarding the issue of porn addiction and ED. I do love him, but don't know how long this relationship can progress because of this issue. And to make matters worse, he now has a smartphone and is viewing porn on his phone at work.
Any help on how to start a conversation with him would be greatly appreciated.