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[shutemdwn]

So I just joined this site tonight because I got irritated, no PISSED OFF, and someone and that triggered me to want to watch porn. Instead I came here. I heard of this site through YBOP so I decided to check it out to see if I could get some support for that moment. It was helpful to read some posts and just to see that there are MANY other people going through the same thing I am. I haven't PMO'd since new years eve.
    I have a question about masturbation, if I do is that considered a relapse? I want to go thirty days without doing it, don't know if I'll make it though. I think I can go with out the porn for thirty days but damn.... no orgasm at all? I'm on my fourth day and I think that's the longest time I've gone for more than a year. I tried to stop once before because I couldn't get it up for this girl I was seeing, we are no longer going out.
    Anyway, was having trouble tonight so here I am. Another question about this, are there any live chat rooms I can go to when the urge hits me?

 

[Gabe Deem]

@ shutemdwn 

I have a question about masturbation, if I do is that considered a relapse?

No. Only intentionally watching porn is considered a relapse.

I think I can go with out the porn for thirty days but damn.... no orgasm at all?

You can do it... for sure. Many guys here and in the past have gone many months without orgasms, as your body will likely have "wet dreams" if it needs a release, but you can have an orgasm if you want if porn is the only thing you are trying to quit for an addiction. However, if you have porn induced ED then it is wise to stay away from forcing orgasms with a sluggish erection. Read this for more on whether or not to masturbate during a reboot - http://legacy.rebootnation.org/index.php?topic=67.0

In the end it's up to you though.

are there any live chat rooms I can go to when the urge hits me?

Not here, but I suggest posting here when you feel an urge or reading success stories, and then if that doesn't help, get off the computer and if you can get out of the house and go for a walk. My favorite thing to do was go workout then go read at a park.

Anyways, congrats on 4 days, and I hope after reading around the site you've calmed down. Check out the informational videos on the front page and on our YouTube channel, and read the stickies and articles on YBOP to get informed.

Hope the best for you. Keep truckin'. Much Love

 

[shutemdwn]

I found that article helpful. Now I understand that masturbation can trigger more porn use and hinders the reboot time...FUCK! Ahhh, ok, I'm gonna do my best. I'm going to have to do this one day at a time. I'm not going to fap...TODAY.
:-\

 

[shutemdwn]

Another day down. Today was tough. Had several moments when the thought to PMO was all consuming. But I made it through. Gonna do it one day at a time tomorrow too. I can't think about not going back to porn forever, that's too much of a burden. But if I can just tell myself I won't do it today, or sometimes by the hour,lol.

 

[AoMSentMe]

Just joined recently myself - it's tough! Good luck in your journey to kick this.

 

[gotta_change]

You can do it! We all can do it!

I found myself into many relapses and though is painful I think they helped me to find the strength to say NO! whenever the urge comes. However I did some MO few days ago. Is really up to you, I found that masturbating really triggers some kind of desire for porn, since my whole sexual experience is related to porn. So I think it can hamper the reboot. But the most important thing of the reboot is staying away from porn or any form of artificial sexual stimulation, pixels and so on.

Keep on!

 

[shutemdwn]

I had to release today. Felt like my brain was going to explode. I didn't use porn and any pics. Just imagination, and no porn fantasy. I thought about women I know and I didn't delay it. It didn't take long. Just thought I should share that.

 

[Yuri]

I had to release today. Felt like my brain was going to explode. I didn't use porn and any pics. Just imagination, and no porn fantasy. I thought about women I know and I didn't delay it. It didn't take long. Just thought I should share that.

Thats an addiction. How did you feel after that?

 

[shutemdwn]

Honestly? Felt good,lol.

 

[Fappy]

You did not jack off to porn or visual stimulation - thats a win!
Ordinarily in that situation youd fap to porn right? Just a bit of personal release using your own mind.
Keep up the fight!

 

[shutemdwn]

At some point during this reboot I would like to go without M O for a period of time. But I don't want that urge to push me back to porn. I didn't feel bad about it or anything. Progress not perfection right? 8)

 

[shutemdwn]

The past couple of nights I've been participating in SAA (Sex Addicts Anonymous). And I have to say that I find it very helpful. Porn addiction is a common problem there. There is a chat room meeting that makes it very easy for me to share. I feel like it takes a burden off my back to be able to talk to people, and get real time feedback, that really understand what your going through. That's something I've been struggling with. I have a couple of friends that I was thinking about talking to about it but, it's not an easy conversation to start, even though they are in AA with me. So anyway, I found it helpful. Here's a link if anyone else wants to check it out. https://saa-recovery.org/Meetings/ElectronicMeetings/index2.php?timeOffset=-300

 

[shutemdwn]

So last night an odd thing occurred. I was getting ready to lay down and sleep for the night when the thought occurred to me, why don't I MO tonight to help me relax and fall asleep? Cause at this point my main goal is not to watch IP and reduce MO. So anyway I lay down turn off the light and all ready to go when I realized, I'm not horny, don't really want to do this, so why am I about to try? This is odd because little over a week ago there would have been no thought process, I just would have done it, and probably to IP. And I didn't MO. And I was perfectly fine with it. This is a change in my thinking and behavior. So there's something going on here. I also feel like I'm beginning to purge all the twisted tastes that I had gotten into my PMO'ing to IP. Like at the end there I was watching stuff that I would never have thought about before I discovered IP. Now it just feels like that stuff is being cleansed out of my mind. I still have sexual thought about women that I see everyday. Sometimes I over fantasize about it, but no crazy stuff, or less of it. So anyway, moral of the story is that I'm beginning to see some progress and it hasn't even been a month.