I want to try, but afraid to fail!

[Vini30]

Hello friends! I am 30 years old. When I was 14 I left school because bipolar disorder. I started using pornography very often. I had few sexual relations and unsatisfactory because of PIED. I never had girlfriend because performance anxiety and PIED. I suffered many years and had depression. Found YBOP and reboot nation ... Now I'm on  hard mode no PMO. After 104 days I'm excited. Is it already time to try approach with real women for dating and sex? Or my case is serious and I try to stay without PMO longer?
I do not feel a strong desire to have sex ... maybe because I have not kissed, caressed, or smelled any woman. I thought that after 90 days I would be very horny hehehe. I want to try, but afraid to fail. ... Thank you all

 

[CrateDane]

If you dont feel horny at all, your libido is probably still suffering and might very well be in a flatline period. Can you get aroused by seeing real world women ?
If not, it does sound very much like flatlining and I would give it more time.

 

[qrayzHD]

Congrats on 104 days hard mode!

I dropped out of high school and am a total virgin too, i have had zero libido for years due to porn use and i'm not entirely confident that i will until i rewire to real world women. GABE sent me a reply when i asked him if it was normal to have zero libido after 110 days.

I did not know I was recovered until I went to have sex and felt arousal shoot through my body and I got an erection before I could get my pants off.

It is normal for guys libido to slowly come whispering back for many months, much longer than 110 days. So by no means feel that your case is not normal... many guys report the same thing you are... I did not feel any "urge" to have sex for over 180 days.

So to answer your question. Yes, it is normal.

Hope that helps 

 

[Chaos Mind]

I do not feel a strong desire to have sex ... maybe because I have not kissed, caressed, or smelled any woman. I thought that after 90 days I would be very horny hehehe. I want to try, but afraid to fail. ... Thank you all

Hey Vini!

I am sure you DO have these desires, but you are either too afraid to let them appear at the surface (where you couldn't deny it anymore and would be "forced" to act), or these feelings are simply new to you. The desire to have sex is not at all comparable to the "urge" to PMO. Sure, some people crave sex, but these are mostly people who are used to regular sexual relations. If you ask me, you simply learned to live your life. And once you have the chance to sleep with a girl you will be veeeeery aroused and eager to try. This is how mother nature wanted us to be. This is healthy sexuality. It is not running around only looking for this one thing. It is...meeting someone and taking step by step.