not a success story

nickd247

Member
hey all, welcome to Gabes new site! figured id post up my success story to share with anyone who may be struggling with an addiction like i had.  hopefully you can take something away from it

Im going to keep the first part of this success story limited to the basic vital info so you can quickly read it and relate without sifting through a bunch of other stuff.  I will include a second post which will have other things like my opinions on various topics based on my experience recovering from addiction.  Here it goes:

Statistics:

-Im 25
-Always been healthy(gym, basketball great diet); never any problems with sexual functioning before addiction.
-Sexually experienced, been having pretty consistent sex since I was 17 in LT relationships
-Became addicted to porn after a break up when I was 20, so 5 years of addiction total.

Before porn addiction

-Rock hard erections, never failed at maintaining an erection and laughed at those who did.
-could have sex up to 3 times per day each time nearly an hour in length, in any position
-regular taste in sex, only liked women and didn?t need extreme things to reach orgasm.
-I had a drive to meet and talk to women. If there was a decent looking girl, you can be damn sure I was trying to bang her lol

During porn addiction

-Failed atleast 10 times to stay hard with girls. Even if I did stay hard, my erections were weak
-an addiction to novelty.  I buried my emotional trauma from a break up in many  different womens pussies.  Never saw anyone consistently and was single for 5 years (unheard of for me)
- Porn escalated into extreme genres  eventually getting into gay/ tranny.
-Dealt with a small round of HOCD until I found YBOP.  I even tried out getting a bj from a guy and realized that it wasn?t for me and I was totally 100% straight.
- became addicted also to internet dating websites and would constantly meet new girls and just try to bang them, only to have PIED cause a failure
- I was incredibly insecure with myself and my sexual capability.  This caused terrible performance anxiety making it near impossible to have sex.
-I masturbated daily to the raunchiest nastiest craigslist casual ads(DO NOT EVER DO THIS!!) porn literature is just as bad as videos!
- I used to get a feeling of being ?doped up? after a PMO session.  I would instantly become sluggish and felt like dying.
-wasn?t as inclined to meet and talk to girls.

After porn addiction (about 2.5-3 months of rebooting and some rewiring):

- im hard pretty much instantly when I lay down and cuddle with my girl (met her while I was rebooting and took it somewhat slow and told her about my problem first before sex).
- I have been having consistent sex for the past few weeks up to 45 minutes in length and even making my girl cum several times. Im back to 2-3 sex sessions per day if we hang out all day.
- sexual tastes are returning back to normal; tranny/gay fantasies have greatly diminished
-masturbation frequency is insignificant.  Going from 1/day to basically 2 times per month.
- just an overall feeling of wellness. Haven?t been sick since I quit P and reduced MO to next to nothing.
-MUCH MORE SECURE WITH MYSELF! I feel like I can do anything, get any girl, pass any class, overall just accomplish my goals.

Physical symptoms during addiction:

-weird irregular chest pains coming from my heart.
-extreme pain coming from my prostate several times per month.
-extreme pain and burning sensation when urinating after PMO (probably due to death grip masturbation technique)
-cystic pustule acne on my back and occassionaly on my face (also had this prior to addiction)

Physical symptoms after addiction:

-chest pains are nearly gone
No more prostate pain and burning sensation when urinating after orgasm (no more death grip even if I do MO)
-Acne is basically gone.

Well that?s it, be sure to check out the following post on my opinion about some other topics relating to rebooting and all the other stuff.
thanks to all who have paved the way for awareness about porn addiction and its ties to erectile dysfunction (PIED).  Also, if you have shared your story in the ?success story? section, I have probably read it and took something from it which helped me tremendously. Specifically, Gabe, gary Wilson. 
 
Thank you very much! Your post is really uplifting and I can relate to it a lot.
But its just good to know that there is a realistic chance of light at the end of the tunnel
 

tk8888

Member
Thank you for the breakdown Nick.

Could you clarify something for me? What exactly does the flatline feel like relatively speaking? I feel like I have had little to no urges for the last 30 days or so, but am honestly not sure what the natural urges should be.
 

tk8888

Member
Thank you for the clarification! The more time I spend time on this board, the more I realize just how different everyone progresses through rebooting. Good to see different sources and how they have progressed as a result of the reboots.
 

noises1990

Active Member
You guys really give me hope! I want to get rid of this issue and just have sex and enjoy it with my girlfriend. Thank you guys!!! Really... Thank you!


P.S. I ve got one question though... How do you know the process is complete?
 
'but im positive that all of us have jacked off enough lol'

That genuinely had me in fits of laughter. As serious as all this is sometimes its still good to laugh.

I'm going through the same thing with tranny porn. Gay porn does nothing for me but over the last few month ive almost exclusively been watching shemale porn. The thing as soon as ive done the business the thought of a tranny disgusts me. But its got to the point where Its the only porn that works for me.  Its really good to know that youve been through this and are coming out the other side. It gives me hope. I've missed out on some amazing chances with some beautiful girls thanks PIED. Now that I understand the cause I will never watch porn ever again. I WILL NOT SACRIFICE MY SEX LIFE FOR MY RIGHT HAND AND A LAPTOP SCREEN

Thanks for sharing. Im so glad I found these sites. You guys have really made me believe I can be the horny  fucker that I used to be once again. I miss the version of me that used to get hard ons just from touching a woman. I dont even recognise myself anymore. Its like my dick has gone lifeless unless im looking at chicks with dicks or fat women, or whatever happens to seem shockking at any particular time. Fuck that. I want to have sex with woman who I actually find attractive!!

 

jkkk

Well-Known Member
nickd247,

You rock, man. I really enjoyed your entry, sounds great.

I've got problems with PE mainly, but ED is there as well - I was able to get erections one after another once (even already after rebooting 4 years ago), but I relapsed something like a year ago and went into being too interested in women pics on the net as well as objectifying women met in real life. All while being engaged. Now I'm married. I just picked up myself a few weeks ago, found this site and I'm pushing for a better life.

I envy you a bit that you got hooked so late - I was hooked at the age of 12.

But there is some genuine hope in your story. I will take some for myself :)
 
Oh man, I am so glad to read this.

I'm only seven days in but I feel 100 percent committed and maybe even a little better.

I have a date tonight. Never met her, as I find online dating easier. But I'm going to take it slow, and I'm glad to read that that's the right way to go.

I am 30, so I've been doing this porn thing between 15-17 years. It may take time. Getting my bike fixed. Going to write more and more. Going to read.

I'm still figuring it out.
 

MeepMan

Active Member
When I was watching porn all the time I escalated to gay/tranny porn as well. I'm not really attracted to guys but I do have the occasional gay fantasies that turn me on without meaning to. Do you think it will fade over time or maybe I am bi-curious?
 

bzarfas

Member
MeepMan said:
When I was watching porn all the time I escalated to gay/tranny porn as well. I'm not really attracted to guys but I do have the occasional gay fantasies that turn me on without meaning to. Do you think it will fade over time or maybe I am bi-curious?
Maybe
or maybe you are just bored with regular porn?

I am straight, although I do appreciate a healthy male form, but unlike most frat guys I know, I don't think girl on girl action is interesting to watch at all, and I think I'd prefer one woman, but would try 2,
when my GF was open to the idea of adding another female, I wasnt very interested/

I wonder if gay guys get ED issues because they are with the wrong sex and then blame other factors for the ED problem
If I'm not being clear, I'm straight, but I have a gay doctor, gay friends and I don't care what you are, I determine how to treat you based on how you treat me.(not how you treat others)
 

MeepMan

Active Member
bzarfas said:
Maybe
or maybe you are just bored with regular porn?

I am straight, although I do appreciate a healthy male form, but unlike most frat guys I know, I don't think girl on girl action is interesting to watch at all, and I think I'd prefer one woman, but would try 2,
when my GF was open to the idea of adding another female, I wasnt very interested/

I wonder if gay guys get ED issues because they are with the wrong sex and then blame other factors for the ED problem
If I'm not being clear, I'm straight, but I have a gay doctor, gay friends and I don't care what you are, I determine how to treat you based on how you treat me.(not how you treat others)

That's the best way to look at things, I judge people in the same way. At the end of the day being a nice person is all that matters. To clear things up; I'm predominantly straight and into girls and I've never done anything with a dude. I think I only ended up watching gay porn because my brain was bored with the usual and wanted something different. Although I think watching it made me consider the possibility I'm into guys as well and in all honesty I don't know. I've never found myself sexually attracted to guys in real life so maybe it's just a porn induced fantasy and has nothing to do with my true sexuality.
 

fnatk

Active Member
First off, thanks nickd247 for posting this, it was the post that convinced me to register here. I'm 29 and have been addicted longer (Since I was 19-20ish) but I recognize myself in pretty much everything you wrote. Especially when getting into the Tgirl/Gay Porn, recieving a bj from a guy was NOT something I liked, but the reverse was part of the porn induced fantasy.

MeepMan, it seems that you're kind of in the same situation as I am. I might be bi, and if I am that's okay but these thoughts and fantasies came after years of porn addiction for me. Most fetishes are probably discovered through porn of course but I think when it comes to your actual sexuality (Be it being gay or bi) you probably know a bit earlier on. I went from looking at the most feminine tgirls possible getting topped to watching more feminine men getting topped, sometimes even through gay porn. I'm not attracted to male bodies or faces, I know if a guy is handsome or not but it doesn't go past that.

 

Phase2

Well-Known Member
This is a great post. It summarizes the problem and recovery very well. I'm hoping I can be as successful too.

One point I'd like to make: I'm a gay man and very happy and comfortable with all that that entails. And I too noticed changing sexual tastes as the porn addiction developed. Towards the end I was watching lesbian porn, more violent/aggressive stuff and even some straight porn--though the sounds of the woman moaning and talking in the videos was a huge turn off and usually quickly drove me on to another video. At the time I was aware of this changing taste, but did not understand at all what was happening. I'm not knocking lesbians or straight folk, it just simply wasn't who I was. YBOP has taught me a lot and I'm looking forward to going back to my original, vanilla attraction to other men and kicking PIED. I bring this up because I think the goal here is to recover who we all really are deep down inside no matter what spectrum of sexuality or orientation we began with. We are all in the same boat here--trying to kick this stupid porn habit that has been screwing with our brains. This brotherhood against porn is a life saver for a lot of us. Keep up the good work guys!
 
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