DestinationUnknown22
Member
basicaly put, would sex during reboot be bad? i can get a 75% erection still (havent had a 100%er in awhile). curious... 
is sex okay?
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Hey man, this is from the FAQ section:
Can I have sex during a reboot?
The 3 things the vast majority of successful rebooters suggest are these.
1. Eliminate all artificial sexual stimulation, including porn fantasy.
-You need to let your addicted pathways weaken and un-wire. However, behavior is very important too. Surfing Facebook, YouTube, or any other online activity that mimics porn use and searching for novelty is to be avoided.
2. Most guys need to "TEMPORARILY" eliminate or drastically reduce masturbation and ORGASMS.
- Desensitization or "numbed pleasure response" needs a little time to bounce back. Your brains reward centers are numbed down to all pleasure and could use a little time out to recover. Depending on age and history of porn use, the time of complete rest can very drastically. Older guys who did not wire their brains from a young age to internet porn can get by with a few weeks of abstinence and be good to go. But what has been seen in younger guys (20's and younger) is that they need more time away from Orgasm to bounce back. Ofcourse there are outliers on both ends of the spectrum but typically anywhere from 2-6 months of rest is best. *Remember the earlier one starts on porn the DEEPER and STRONGER the neural pathways are associated with eachother.*
-The bottom line is you have to define what "temporarily" means for you. Nobody can tell you exactly how long you need to rest as everyone is different.
3.You need to, and maybe have to, REWIRE your sexual response to a real life partner.
- The most important brain change with porn induced sexual dysfunctions appears to be sensitization, (nerve cells that fire together wire together). Rewiring is firing your nerve cells for real people, thus wiring your nerve cells to real people. Rewiring does NOT mean you have to have sex. In fact, finding a loving partner and taking it slow is the best way to rewire in my opinion. Things like, cuddling, kissing, holding hands, or just hanging out enjoying eachother are all rewiring you to real people.
-Now, to finally answer your question. Is sex OK during a reboot? The answer is yes, but you probably want to wait a few weeks to months, depending on sexual history, and it seems that you should avoid orgasm for a few months, depending on sexual history. Even when guys feel rebooted like myself, we continued to see improvements for months after we are able to have sex, so it is wise to SLOWLY introduce orgasm back into your life.
-Sex without orgasm is known as Karezza. I actually did this a few times during my reboot and found it to be very benificial, however the times I had a orgasm I felt like I went back into a flatline.
So, my advice is to start rewiring ASAP, but stay away from orgasm for a period of time. Over 30 guys at least a month, younger guys 2-6 months.
For more FAQ's check out this page- http://legacy.rebootnation.org/index.php?topic=70.0
Hey man, this is from the FAQ section:
Can I have sex during a reboot?
The 3 things the vast majority of successful rebooters suggest are these.
1. Eliminate all artificial sexual stimulation, including porn fantasy.
-You need to let your addicted pathways weaken and un-wire. However, behavior is very important too. Surfing Facebook, YouTube, or any other online activity that mimics porn use and searching for novelty is to be avoided.
2. Most guys need to "TEMPORARILY" eliminate or drastically reduce masturbation and ORGASMS.
- Desensitization or "numbed pleasure response" needs a little time to bounce back. Your brains reward centers are numbed down to all pleasure and could use a little time out to recover. Depending on age and history of porn use, the time of complete rest can very drastically. Older guys who did not wire their brains from a young age to internet porn can get by with a few weeks of abstinence and be good to go. But what has been seen in younger guys (20's and younger) is that they need more time away from Orgasm to bounce back. Ofcourse there are outliers on both ends of the spectrum but typically anywhere from 2-6 months of rest is best. *Remember the earlier one starts on porn the DEEPER and STRONGER the neural pathways are associated with eachother.*
-The bottom line is you have to define what "temporarily" means for you. Nobody can tell you exactly how long you need to rest as everyone is different.
3.You need to, and maybe have to, REWIRE your sexual response to a real life partner.
- The most important brain change with porn induced sexual dysfunctions appears to be sensitization, (nerve cells that fire together wire together). Rewiring is firing your nerve cells for real people, thus wiring your nerve cells to real people. Rewiring does NOT mean you have to have sex. In fact, finding a loving partner and taking it slow is the best way to rewire in my opinion. Things like, cuddling, kissing, holding hands, or just hanging out enjoying eachother are all rewiring you to real people.
-Now, to finally answer your question. Is sex OK during a reboot? The answer is yes, but you probably want to wait a few weeks to months, depending on sexual history, and it seems that you should avoid orgasm for a few months, depending on sexual history. Even when guys feel rebooted like myself, we continued to see improvements for months after we are able to have sex, so it is wise to SLOWLY introduce orgasm back into your life.
-Sex without orgasm is known as Karezza. I actually did this a few times during my reboot and found it to be very benificial, however the times I had a orgasm I felt like I went back into a flatline.
So, my advice is to start rewiring ASAP, but stay away from orgasm for a period of time. Over 30 guys at least a month, younger guys 2-6 months.
For more FAQ's check out this page- http://legacy.rebootnation.org/index.php?topic=70.0
Madaemosewa
Member
Get in there bro. Do it as much as possibru. To many people, some pussy if the luckiest thing someone can get. By all means, *** her brains out!!!!
fcjl8
Active Member
My opinion is that a loving and intimate relationship while recovering from PMO addiction is quite beneficial. I have enjoyed some form of intimacy with my wife pretty much one a week during my longish reboots.
I am lucky in that we share intimacy and love and this helps me re-wire to her. To a woman and away from my compulsion to pixels and videos of people I have no connection to.
I am ever mindful of post O effect. A few days after an O I sometimes feel extra horny, but that passes and I can control myself. I don't go rushing off to porn, I just cuddle and hug and hand hold my wife more.
Non-sexual physical connection with a partner is great as well! Just the nice dating/romantic stuff of hand holding, hugging, gentle touch and spooning!!
I am lucky in that we share intimacy and love and this helps me re-wire to her. To a woman and away from my compulsion to pixels and videos of people I have no connection to.
I am ever mindful of post O effect. A few days after an O I sometimes feel extra horny, but that passes and I can control myself. I don't go rushing off to porn, I just cuddle and hug and hand hold my wife more.
Non-sexual physical connection with a partner is great as well! Just the nice dating/romantic stuff of hand holding, hugging, gentle touch and spooning!!
