I'm at the end of my rope and I need help.. I suppose as it goes i'm a pretty typical case but I do have
some unique contributors also :'( :'( :'( :'( :'(
My name is Brandon and i've been struggling with Porn induced ED for a few yrs now.. it's prob started 7-8 yrs
ago but it's at it's worst now. As I type this I haven't looked at porn for 3 days, prob one of my longer stretches. My go to way is simply pulling up a quick smutty vid from PornHub or similar and getting off and moving on. My preferred drug has always been
girl on girl porn as it has been since 2006 approx when i started.. my brain hard wired to that and I never had the desire to
look at anything else. I'm 27 now and not much has changed.
I moved away from home when I was 18 and joined the Air Force.. this is a time where I had more freedom and
was single and well you know the rest. I had my laptop and I started to download girl on girl porn off
Limewire, Torrentz etc and was getting off pretty much daily to it, I had next to no responsibilities other than working
and no parents to worry about around the house anymore etc so I had at it in my dorm room. I sometimes went a few days in between
but not often. I got married young when I was 19, at that point my Libido was on point, all my wife and I did
while we dated was party and have sex in my dorm room, sometimes up to 4-5 times a day. After we got married, things
changed and it was all my fault. I kept masturbating to the same stuff I always did whenever my wife wasn't around..
regardless of how much sex I was getting.. at this time I could handle both and it wasn't a problem. I was away from home on 2 6- month deployments over the next few yrs.. I look at these as times when I really got chemically dependent.. obviouslly without
my wife to have a normal sex life I fell into the trap of porn and plastic satisfaction. While I was away from home I masturbated daily sometimes more than once to porn whenever I was bored before bed and stuff.
Then we also have two kids.. as it goes we've been alot less sexual active since having kids by the nature of balancing the
kids/work/stress.. this has led to me getting off when I feel I need to. If the wife says not tonight, I will simply go in the living
room and get off and it's been like that for 5 yrs. Trying to maintain a balance of still having a sex life but then when I don't get
sex having my own time, now that has eroded.. i'm no longer able to see porn AND have a sexual relationship.
My situation contributes to the difficulty of my recovery. it's not like i'm just a single guy without
unlimited time to think this through or no responsibility. I work full time, go to school full time in mornings and evenings and i'm also married with two kids(3 and 5), this has made things all the more difficult. With the strains of life there is great pressure for my wife
and I to be intimate when the moment is right since we're usually busy, since i'm away at work or school alot of the time and my wife is usually ready for bed right after the kids go to sleep, she wants it when she wants it and I haven't been prepared.... my addiction is taking over.
I haven't been able to maintain an erection, have a full salute full erection, morning erection and also late or no ejaculation issues. This has been happening for some time and I never addressed it and now it threatens to destroy my relationship, . At least a few times a week, I wait till my wife is sleeping and then quickly masturbate and move on, i'll bring up a vid, get off and move on in less than 5 mins in most cases..I never knew how this was destroying me until now. The reason i'm choosing to bring this up now is because it seems
to have gotten much worse of the past few weeks and months.. until a few days ago I was still masturbating almost daily and now
all of a sudden I see the damage.. I can't even recall the last time I had a full erection or a satisfying orgasm to be honest..just weak. :'(
Let me tell you about my wife and the reason I will never bring this to light with her..I love her however is she a certain way let's say..she was raised as a rather rigidly conservative Christian and things like Porn, Masturbation etc don't exist in her world, it's just the way she was brought up. She gets offended at the very mention. In general we are on very different planes sexually even though I have gotten her to loosen up a few times
it's not the kind of thing she would ever even bring up outside the bedroom.. The reason I explain this is because telling my wife about my porn habits would destroy my marriage, as in end it.. there's just no way around it when she's been basically brought up to
believe masturbating as an equivalent to cheating and porn is the same. Regardless of all that, she is still attractive and I want
to be able have a goddamn normal erection again but she has an average sex drive and i've found my self more often then not
avoiding sex with her or hoping she falls asleep, knowing I had already masturbated or even if I hadn't fear that I wouldn't
be able to perform and she would call me out on it, which she has
Most of the time if I don't Cum or can't stay hard it's not a big deal and I just get my wife off and we move on and she falls asleep, but then there are times where she asks me what is wrong with you? and has come straight out and questioned if i'm cheating on her.. If I was in a situation where I felt like I could be honest about it I would, but I would lose everything she believes this stuff is completely evil.
It's alot of pressure on me to pull out of this quick and rescue my relationship// the longer I can't perform the more suspicious my
wife is becoming.
So it seems i'm fighting this battle alone, and just hoping there some others who can kind of relate. I'm in a situation where I need
to recover fast and recover the intimacy with my wife fast and i'm hoping there is someone who can relate.
some unique contributors also :'( :'( :'( :'( :'(
My name is Brandon and i've been struggling with Porn induced ED for a few yrs now.. it's prob started 7-8 yrs
ago but it's at it's worst now. As I type this I haven't looked at porn for 3 days, prob one of my longer stretches. My go to way is simply pulling up a quick smutty vid from PornHub or similar and getting off and moving on. My preferred drug has always been
girl on girl porn as it has been since 2006 approx when i started.. my brain hard wired to that and I never had the desire to
look at anything else. I'm 27 now and not much has changed.
I moved away from home when I was 18 and joined the Air Force.. this is a time where I had more freedom and
was single and well you know the rest. I had my laptop and I started to download girl on girl porn off
Limewire, Torrentz etc and was getting off pretty much daily to it, I had next to no responsibilities other than working
and no parents to worry about around the house anymore etc so I had at it in my dorm room. I sometimes went a few days in between
but not often. I got married young when I was 19, at that point my Libido was on point, all my wife and I did
while we dated was party and have sex in my dorm room, sometimes up to 4-5 times a day. After we got married, things
changed and it was all my fault. I kept masturbating to the same stuff I always did whenever my wife wasn't around..
regardless of how much sex I was getting.. at this time I could handle both and it wasn't a problem. I was away from home on 2 6- month deployments over the next few yrs.. I look at these as times when I really got chemically dependent.. obviouslly without
my wife to have a normal sex life I fell into the trap of porn and plastic satisfaction. While I was away from home I masturbated daily sometimes more than once to porn whenever I was bored before bed and stuff.
Then we also have two kids.. as it goes we've been alot less sexual active since having kids by the nature of balancing the
kids/work/stress.. this has led to me getting off when I feel I need to. If the wife says not tonight, I will simply go in the living
room and get off and it's been like that for 5 yrs. Trying to maintain a balance of still having a sex life but then when I don't get
sex having my own time, now that has eroded.. i'm no longer able to see porn AND have a sexual relationship.
My situation contributes to the difficulty of my recovery. it's not like i'm just a single guy without
unlimited time to think this through or no responsibility. I work full time, go to school full time in mornings and evenings and i'm also married with two kids(3 and 5), this has made things all the more difficult. With the strains of life there is great pressure for my wife
and I to be intimate when the moment is right since we're usually busy, since i'm away at work or school alot of the time and my wife is usually ready for bed right after the kids go to sleep, she wants it when she wants it and I haven't been prepared.... my addiction is taking over.
I haven't been able to maintain an erection, have a full salute full erection, morning erection and also late or no ejaculation issues. This has been happening for some time and I never addressed it and now it threatens to destroy my relationship, . At least a few times a week, I wait till my wife is sleeping and then quickly masturbate and move on, i'll bring up a vid, get off and move on in less than 5 mins in most cases..I never knew how this was destroying me until now. The reason i'm choosing to bring this up now is because it seems
to have gotten much worse of the past few weeks and months.. until a few days ago I was still masturbating almost daily and now
all of a sudden I see the damage.. I can't even recall the last time I had a full erection or a satisfying orgasm to be honest..just weak. :'(
Let me tell you about my wife and the reason I will never bring this to light with her..I love her however is she a certain way let's say..she was raised as a rather rigidly conservative Christian and things like Porn, Masturbation etc don't exist in her world, it's just the way she was brought up. She gets offended at the very mention. In general we are on very different planes sexually even though I have gotten her to loosen up a few times
it's not the kind of thing she would ever even bring up outside the bedroom.. The reason I explain this is because telling my wife about my porn habits would destroy my marriage, as in end it.. there's just no way around it when she's been basically brought up to
believe masturbating as an equivalent to cheating and porn is the same. Regardless of all that, she is still attractive and I want
to be able have a goddamn normal erection again but she has an average sex drive and i've found my self more often then not
avoiding sex with her or hoping she falls asleep, knowing I had already masturbated or even if I hadn't fear that I wouldn't
be able to perform and she would call me out on it, which she has
Most of the time if I don't Cum or can't stay hard it's not a big deal and I just get my wife off and we move on and she falls asleep, but then there are times where she asks me what is wrong with you? and has come straight out and questioned if i'm cheating on her.. If I was in a situation where I felt like I could be honest about it I would, but I would lose everything she believes this stuff is completely evil.
It's alot of pressure on me to pull out of this quick and rescue my relationship// the longer I can't perform the more suspicious my
wife is becoming.
So it seems i'm fighting this battle alone, and just hoping there some others who can kind of relate. I'm in a situation where I need
to recover fast and recover the intimacy with my wife fast and i'm hoping there is someone who can relate.