February 19th - 23th:
It's been a while since I wrote. I've been busy at my gf's place and I didn't have time to write. The 19th I did have sex and ejaculate, and the next day I felt strange, so I'm not sure is achieving orgasm, even in a comitted relationship and without fantasy, is good for me. I talked with my gf and told her that when we had sex, I'd be refraining from orgasm conciusly. She was OK with that (it's also more time for her
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The weekend was great. I spent a lot of time with her and I was feeling quiet. That's nice
we also started sleeping together better and had sex on sunday (no orgasm for me this time).
Anyway, yesterday, Monday 23th, I awoke feeling good, but as the day progressed I was feeling more and more rushed. I had to leave work at 12pm to go get my car and drive my GF to the doctor, and I didn't like leaving work at that hour, when you're supposed to be there. In top of that, I was running late to pick up my gf and the traffic put me in a angry / rushed mood. Anyway, I was feeling strange the rest of the morning. I didn't remember where I parked the car (my gf was orienting herself better than me) and wasn't really paying attention to anything.
Anyway, my gf noticed it and that's when I felt that I was rushed. In the way back to her place, I also hit a car. Just a little scratch, but had to do the papers, and my gf was scared about me. It was my fault, because I was being impatient in the street. It seems that I feel worse on Mondays (when I'm at work I feel bad?) and then it gets better. I don't know, maybe it's too soon to extract a pattern.
The other topic of the day is money. I'm now going to a therapy that's very expensive, so this month I had to take money from my savings. That worried me and I told my gf that I'd be doing a budget to see where I can cut expenses. She was saying that money is for spending, and that she doesn't like stingy people. I'm not stingy, it's just that I don't want to depend on my savings to live day by day. I told her that I'd be dropping my phonetics class, a 100? saving every month.
Then she wrote me that she'd help me with the budget, because she has experience, and that she'll pay my phonetics class the next month. I didn't know what to do with the offering. It made me feel worried, because I foresee a discussion and I don't like discussions. Anyway, I explained in an email that I was tired of the class (the best part of it is that it's true) and that I'd be dropping it regardless of monetary reasons (which is also truth).
Anyway, a difficult day after a easy week. I suppose that's the way it is: you have stretches of bad days that, hopefully, are less and less frequent as you progress.