I want to make this as short as possible only because I know when I have been reading posts I sometimes find it hard to read the very long ones. My story in a nutshell. 47 years old, been suffering from ed symptoms for 10 years now. I believe after stumbling onto this page that the MO could definitely be a factor but not positive of the P. I started masturbating at 14 and I think like most boys just went to town. I didn't really have much access to porn but the masturbation was something I did daily. Basically every morning it was like part of my waking up routine. ALLWAYS woke up with rock hard wood. This continued into my 20's when I met my wife and even after we were married at 27. I always had what I thought was a strong sex drive. I just needed to know the wife was in the mood and I was hard before I even got into bed. Around mid 30's is where my problems started and I wish I could give a definite sequence of events but I'm not even sure what happened first. I can say this, due to what I unfortunately have to admit was maybe boredom in my marriage and maybe a mid-life crisis I started frequenting strip clubs. I think it was because my wife was my only experience and I think deep down I felt I had missed out. Once I had the courage to get my first lap dance I was hooked. All these beautiful young girls... you get the picture. I had the financial ability to get the private dances etc. Then at around 37 something happened and I still cant say what was first. I woke up one morning after I had sex with my wife and had a sense of discomfort in the groin area. It continued for quite a while and due to embarrassment I didn't see the doctor for quite a while, probably more than a year. I thought it was muscular and would pass. I get diagnosed with non-bacterial prostatitis (if you don't know what it is be happy you never get it. Doctors don't know what causes it and have basically no real treatment). I'm going to say that after this is when the ed problems started. Now during this time I'm still doing the strip clubs and also started watching a lot of free porn on-line. I think I actually started because I was having a hard time getting hard during masturbation and I felt I needed some new fantasies to help me. I own my own business so I would spend quite a bit of time at work but usually just watching the short clips. I wasn't spending hours watching and masturbating like I read in so many other posts. Well I start having problems in the bedroom and start avoiding sex with my wife. Long story short, we end up divorced after 25 years together. I was stupid in not talking to her about my problem but was embarrassed and honestly I guess there were other problems in the marriage. But because of the prostatitis and also because I had a problem with depression I was always chasing other potential causes of the ed. Was it depression? Was it the medication for depression? Should I try another antidepressant? Should I try going off again? Is it the prostatitis causing my issues? round and round and round but no answers and no doctors that can help. Tried all the ed drugs but I can't honestly say they helped much. I'm told I have no physical reason to have ed. Good shape, no cholesterol, no heart problem etc etc etc Anyway during this whole time I'm still doing the clubs but I think at this point trying to find something to get me really excited. I would get erect but never 100% And also masturbating and I think a lot of times doing so and "testing" to see if it would work better. I'm definitely guilty of abusing the little guy even when he wasn't interested, if you know what I mean. So where am I now and what are my questions? Ive been divorced 3 years now. During that time I still frequented the clubs and picked up some of the girls. Beautiful, young, 20 somethings. I can get erect and penetrate but its never great and most times I have to finish off myself. Never that sense of WOW and excitement. Ive recently in the last few months stopped that stuff and met a real lady. We have had sex and its been about the same. She seems pleased but I'm really not. Erection is ok but not great. Sensation is very decreased. A couple times I finished the act "normally" I guess you would say but more than a few times had to help myself. So I guess is if there is anyone with a similar story in regards to the strip clubs meaning that they think the clubs more than online porn was more the root of the problem. Anyone else suffer from prostatitis? I think sometimes the reason my prostate was inflamed was because I was "forcing" the issue and over working the PC muscles to try and maintain an erection when it wasn't natural. Why don't ed drugs work for me? I know they say you need to be aroused but I am because I do get erect but just not all the way. Shouldn't the drugs get me to 100%?? I like this young lady and she likes me. I think I am re-booting because I'm no longer watching porn or going to clubs and I have cut out M almost 100% (have had some slips). Can I reboot with a girlfriend? Should I forget the drugs? Any input would be great. and PS, I do get morning wood the last couple years where as in the years when the ed was very bad it was almost never but the same as when I have sex. Erection is never 100% :-(