I can't stop thinking about sex and fantasy. Need advice please

Huntelaar

Member
Hi my friends rebooters.

So i have a PIED induced since I started porn then extrem porn from 15 and i'm now 27. I never could be able to have sex because of that with differents gfs and some break up very painful because of that. Anyway i have discovered YBOP on September last year and i'm now 81 days free of PMO (even if i had some wet dreams). I have my morning wood but since i never tried to have sex with another girl so i dont know how my erections would be. The problem is my libido is i think at the higher level it could be. All girl i cross seems attractive to me, when i'm going to the gym you cant imagine how hard is it with all these hot girl doing some exercice in a very sexy leggings or in the tube etc.. and the problem is I cant stop thinking about sex with them but i dont have my erection even thinking about... is it slowing down the process ?
Also during my 81 days, I have been surprised 4 or 5 times to going on a nn helpful process (one time i been to a porn website watching pictures for 5 mn and close it so didnt PMO, or going to escort services profile and sending email to some of them speaking about sex) so i'm sometimes fantasing about sex and extrem sex as fetish but only with real girl and no with porn. I NEVER have PMO, or MO or M until now but despite that I m waking up the morning  and thinking about my penis to control i have my morning woods or thinking about sex with my ex gf or other girl or thinking about fantasy. So i'm completely aware my hardmode 90 is not a completely success and i know after the 90 days it would take more days again to be recover as i dont think i rewired my brain or having a low dopamine level.I actually absolutely dont know. Last time i been happily surpised to have an erection just by watching a very attractive girl in the tube even if it wasnt that hard it was a good start. I really need advice to have a successful reboot and started finally to live my life of man and having a healthy and good sexual life..
i have several questions
1-after the 90 days would it be possible to trying having sex with a girl? what could happened if i dont have an erection? does it mean my penis would be always flat?
2- i think i m not anymore to the flatline because i'm now really horny and i met girls and indirectly think and speak about sex. is it normal?
3- my fantasy are still there, on my brain - what will happen if i tried to realise some of them with a professionnal so in real life and no throuh a screen laptop? I know it would be a MO but after the 90 days would it not be a good way to put all these fantasy behind me once i realise some of them and in the same time, trying without pressure to test if all working well?

thank you for your adviced !

 

klarson27

Active Member
I'm no professional but I can't fathom that it would be constructive to seek out a "professional" to realize (and thus hope to eliminate) your fantasies.

I'm struggling with looking at women sexually all the time (especially at the gym) but I'm just muddling my way through it.

Still hoping to become a miracle genius! :)
 

challenged

Active Member
Seconded.  If you want to have a "healthy and good sexual life," I don't see how seeing a "professional" is a good idea (for a whole bunch of reasons), particularly to indulge in fantasies or fetishes that might have been induced or exacerbated by porn. It seems to me that it is just using another type of crutch to deal with your issues.
 
U

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Guest
The more often you indulge in realizing your fantasies, the stronger they will their grip on you grow. Everytime you can get yourself together and endure the pressure you'll gain a bit more independence. We can't solve all our problems stemming from years of porn abuse in three months - the mere idea is ridiculous. But we, and that includes you, can make a start. After that, as long as we maintain our focus, things will go back to normal and we will be free in that respect.
Bottom line: Don't try to make your fantasies come true - unless you're fantisizing about being porn-free. All the best!
 
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