Out_of_The_Pits
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I'm sure everyone's got an opinion on this, but whens a good time in your recovery to start dating? Advice on dating?
On dating
- Thread starter Out_of_The_Pits
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challenged
Active Member
There is a significant number of people in the world for whom dating does not include sex. Just sayin'
Agreed.
And I would also say, but I underline that's my personal view, that a proper reboot must involve some degree of rethinking of the equation "dating = sex" or even the more extreme, but common version (yes, I include myself) "women = sex".
It might be a sort of a surprise for both the rebooterer and those around him. This means that at a certain point in time the girl with whom you date might expect moves towards sex (or not, that is not granted in my view, it also depends on personal consitution, beliefs, regligion etc. etc.) and then it would probably also be very wise to discuss with her openly the issue of reboot.
There also might be a hidden question here - how long should you abstain from sex during reboot? There are plenty of views here about that. I'd say Gabe has a very deep and detailed discussion on this topic in his thread - it's up there in the "Success Stories" section.
And I would also say, but I underline that's my personal view, that a proper reboot must involve some degree of rethinking of the equation "dating = sex" or even the more extreme, but common version (yes, I include myself) "women = sex".
It might be a sort of a surprise for both the rebooterer and those around him. This means that at a certain point in time the girl with whom you date might expect moves towards sex (or not, that is not granted in my view, it also depends on personal consitution, beliefs, regligion etc. etc.) and then it would probably also be very wise to discuss with her openly the issue of reboot.
There also might be a hidden question here - how long should you abstain from sex during reboot? There are plenty of views here about that. I'd say Gabe has a very deep and detailed discussion on this topic in his thread - it's up there in the "Success Stories" section.
Out_of_The_Pits
Member
Thanks for the response. No sex. I was just thinking it sounded like fun, especially since I'm quite the introvert. I have been as long before addiction. It would be a good way to meet people, and start actually living life again.
Out_of_The_Pits
Member
Oh a few weeks ago I did start taking dance classes. So that's always fun when out and about.
Fappy
Respected Member
Dating could be beneficial to the reboot process. It may help to develop feelings of real intimacy and caring. The brain can get used to being wired to these feelings and react sexually to them, rather than some pixilated slag on a computer screen.
Connecting in a normal way with a woman and not expecting her to give you sex will massively boost the reboot! In the long run this will have a more profound effect than setting your sites on the goal of slamming the shit out of her pussy.
Real people, real connections. Real sex.
Fapster
Connecting in a normal way with a woman and not expecting her to give you sex will massively boost the reboot! In the long run this will have a more profound effect than setting your sites on the goal of slamming the shit out of her pussy.
Real people, real connections. Real sex.
Fapster
fapfreezone
Active Member
I thought the sex issue was a fairly standard one from the FAQ - no sex for 30-90 days, depending on when you started using porn (older = shorter time until test), then test with real partner and re-evaluate.