The first step of the rest of my life

[Never_again]

Hey everyone,

I'm almost 24 years old, and I've started watching porn on a regular basis when I was about 16 years old. I could watch porn as much as 3-4 time a day sometimes, do you realise how much time it represent on 8 years or regular exposure? I've wasted so much time, I was so humiliated many time because of my mild addiction to porn and I miss out so many opportunities to have girlfriends (actually I've never had a girlfriend, and I believe it's mainly because of my addiction to porn), and i've become such a weird guy because of that : I'm socially very awkward, very stressed around girls, I cannot keep eye contact with people...

But Last monday, I finally realised  I had to cut out on pornography, I had enough of all this. I won't watch another porn video ever in my life or only with my future girlfriend for fun or if she wants to.

To be very honest, I don't believe I'm highly addicted to porn : During overseas trip, I did not watch porn for 2-3 weeks straight and it wasn't that bad, I did not feel like craving for it as bad as some people seems to be craving it.

I don't really want to talk more about that, I think that if you're reading this post on this very forum, you exactly know what I went through and why I'm here today.

So far, I cut out on porn for almost one week ! I've had only little craving so far, although yesterday was a tough day...

So my first goal is to go 1 month without masturbating or watching porn.

To make sure I'll succeed, I will :
_Keep myself very busy (start working out again, get more involve in music, reading more books, starting a blog on one of my passion, keep learning italian, starting to go out more and try to have a girlfriend.)
_Remind myself everyday that life is so goddamn short that I would dishonor myself if I spend one more minute watching porn
_Keep in mind my ultimate goal : No more porn, ever. And finding a girlfriend.

I'll keep this post updated as often as possible.

See you guys,

PS: By the way, sorry if there is any spelling mistakes, or grammatically wrong sentences, I'm not a native english speaker.

Never_Again

 

[mhel]

Good luck, same here just started to join the forum yesterday! Porn is really hard to get rid off.

 

[Never_again]

Good luck, same here just started to join the forum yesterday! Porn is really hard to get rid off.

Thanks for your message ! Good luck to you too


Almost one week without porn AND masturbation! That's great knowing that I could masturbate up to 3-4 times a day two weeks ago.

I'll give some update of my first week off porn (since a long time) tomorrow.

 

[Never_again]

1 Week porn free today!

This week wasn't at all easy all the time, and I feel like my penis is dead sometimes although I do have little MO, but during the rest of the day, nothing.

The two first days were kind of good : no big craving, no temptation to go check out a porn website or to masturbate, etc..

The next days were horrible though, I was thinking of porn when I was at work, and when I came home the temptation was too high, so I took a cold shower (a habit that I'm gonna try to adopt from now on) and I think it helped a bit to reduce the arousal.

I had some intense pain in my left ball as well, actually I'm starting to wonder if it's is really healthy not to masturbate at all...

Tonight, I'm feeling like I can have sucess going without porn for 30 days, it's not as bad as I expected although I had a few bad days...

What Worked for me so far :
Cold Showers
Keeping myself busy
Staying away of the computer as much as possible

 

[Never_again]

8th day :

Good day today, although no MW at all. No big craving for porn, but I have the tendancy to touch myself lightly sometimes, and I definitely gotta stop that.

 

[Shaft]

Touching yourself will eventually lead you to a failure with or without watching any visual stimulation, so you MUST avoid  that ASAP.

Other than that, congrats for joining anti-porn 'movement'. Best of luck in your progress.

Regarding the masturbation, I don't think that not ejaculating for a month is that bad to your health, although from my personal experience I can say that getting daily boners without ejaculating might leave you with quite severe pain in your balls which sometimes is unbearable. That's why you should avoid all the triggers and keep away from them.

Good luck!

 

[Never_again]

Touching yourself will eventually lead you to a failure with or without watching any visual stimulation, so you MUST avoid  that ASAP.

Other than that, congrats for joining anti-porn 'movement'. Best of luck in your progress.

Regarding the masturbation, I don't think that not ejaculating for a month is that bad to your health, although from my personal experience I can say that getting daily boners without ejaculating might leave you with quite severe pain in your balls which sometimes is unbearable. That's why you should avoid all the triggers and keep away from them.

Good luck!

Thanks for your message,

Touching yourself will eventually lead you to a failure with or without watching any visual stimulation, so you MUST avoid  that ASAP.

I didn't know it was that clear.. Thanks for the tip, I will definitely stop that from now on.

One of the thing I do as well and that I know I shouldn't do, is fantisizing about having sex with one hot girl I saw in the street or anywhere else, or thinking back of some of the best porn I've seen in my life. This is actually pretty hard to stop doing.

9th day without Porn :

Good day slight MW, good mood.

But tonight, I'm having some doubts : and if all of this was pointless? Is it really gonna work for me? How is it possible that there are so many people that everyday watch porn and don't have problem like I do? Maybe after all I'm not that addicted, and I should get back to PMO...

 

[Never_again]

Back to 0 days ....

Rebooting might be harder than what I expected...

 

[Shaft]

But tonight, I'm having some doubts : and if all of this was pointless? Is it really gonna work for me? How is it possible that there are so many people that everyday watch porn and don't have problem like I do? Maybe after all I'm not that addicted, and I should get back to PMO...

Well if you don't have PIED and still can't get it up you should see a doc. This is serious.. But if you do, what else do you need that would fully assure you?
In one way or another, I just simply don't think that watching porn on a daily is a healthy thing. It messes up everything inside leaving alone ED.

Why did you go back to PMO?

 

[Never_again]

But tonight, I'm having some doubts : and if all of this was pointless? Is it really gonna work for me? How is it possible that there are so many people that everyday watch porn and don't have problem like I do? Maybe after all I'm not that addicted, and I should get back to PMO...

Well if you don't have PIED and still can't get it up you should see a doc. This is serious.. But if you do, what else do you need that would fully assure you?
In one way or another, I just simply don't think that watching porn on a daily is a healthy thing. It messes up everything inside leaving alone ED.

Why did you go back to PMO?

I can have masturbate, have a erection and have an orgasm without porn, no doubt about it, but the quality of my erection is clearly not as good without porn.
And I sometimes have MW.

what else do you need that would fully assure you?
In one way or another, I just simply don't think that watching porn on a daily is a healthy thing. It messes up everything inside leaving alone ED

Well you know, sometimes knowing that doing something is wrong, doesn't prevent us from doing it. Things like smoking, eating junk food, drinking too much alcohol, etc...
But you're right, I think there is enough good reasons to stop watching porn, it would be stupid not to do it.. Weirdly, that not even the physical/medical reasons that motivate me to stop watching it, but more the embarassement of getting caught while having a wank on a porn movie, relatives noticing suspicious stains in your bedroom, the computer repairman asking you very embarrasing question in front of others customers...

As I said, I don't think I have PIED but I think the quality of my erection is starting to slowly decrease because of porn, but I'm not (yet) to the point were I cannot get it up without porn.

 

[Never_again]

Back to 0 again...

I have a serious motivation problems, I think I just don't realise how serious my problem actually is. Everybody is doing it, so why should I quit?

Yet I still want to get rid of this habit.

 

[noises1990]

Man... Just go with it (the reboot)... You've got nothing to lose if you abstain from PMO. Why should you quit? Remember what brought you here... Why you wanted to do this in the first place... Be strong brother!

 

[SETI]

I can tell you that for me, the science together with the stories I related to on forums like this one really convinced me I had a problem. The problem isn't really moral, its not about porn being "wrong" and its not because it will kill me. It just make us numb.

If you are unsure you have a problem and consider going back to it, doesn't that tell you something? Its our little security net which we can rely on. Its a drug really. But drugs have different effects and consequences, right? PMO has limp dick, social anxiety, depression and isolation. Sounds worse than some other drugs I can think of...

Read up on the science and the stories of others and make your mind up. Is it good for you? Is it bad?

I will not use porn anymore, ever. I know the effects. I still don't know how it will affect me to quit because I'm only 3 weeks "sober", but from what I hear there could be some very nice surprises for those who go through the whole reboot 

Be well!

 

[Never_again]

Man... Just go with it (the reboot)... You've got nothing to lose if you abstain from PMO. Why should you quit? Remember what brought you here... Why you wanted to do this in the first place... Be strong brother!

Thanks a lot for your message. Well I still feel like, maybe porn is not such a bad things, and abstaining from it might slightly improve some aspects of my life but on the other hand, masturbation is a healthy and very pleasurable thing. I feel like I'm preventing myself from doing something very enjoyable simply to avoid little drawbacks related to this activity.
But you know what, I'm taking full responsability for this, it's my job to find good reasons to stop.

Thanks again for your kind words buddy

I can tell you that for me, the science together with the stories I related to on forums like this one really convinced me I had a problem. The problem isn't really moral, its not about porn being "wrong" and its not because it will kill me. It just make us numb.

If you are unsure you have a problem and consider going back to it, doesn't that tell you something? Its our little security net which we can rely on. Its a drug really. But drugs have different effects and consequences, right? PMO has limp dick, social anxiety, depression and isolation. Sounds worse than some other drugs I can think of...

Read up on the science and the stories of others and make your mind up. Is it good for you? Is it bad?

I will not use porn anymore, ever. I know the effects. I still don't know how it will affect me to quit because I'm only 3 weeks "sober", but from what I hear there could be some very nice surprises for those who go through the whole reboot 

Be well!

Those are very good points you're making here. I should read more studies about it and more sucess stories, and actually giving it a try would also help me realise how good the effects of PMO abstinence can be.

 

[Never_again]

Back to 0 again....

I'm feeling quite depressed.... Everytime I decide to watch porn I'm thinking "Ok this is the last time" or "Ok I'm PMO just today because I'm in a bad mood and it will make me feel much better".

I believe what would help is reminding myself WHY I'm trying to cut back watching porn movies. And I actually know quite a few reasons that should make me stick with that restriction.
But somehow, I feel like watching porn is not that bad because everybody is watching it.

 

[jnv]

Hey there buddy. Stay strong, I know that feeling too, when you get the urges surging up, your brain tries to put things into perspective and tell you "it's not a big deal bro" but IT IS and you know it because afterwards, your brain leaves you alone with all your remorses...

I've done something last Monday which works well for me not to even peek at Porn at all. I've decided to go on Monk-Mode from now on and I've literally put a picture of a monk meditating on the wall (right next to my computer screen) and everytimes the idea of peek at nude pics crosses my mind, I look at it until I take control of my mind again. Well, it works with me (I know absolutely nothing about meditation, budhism, yoga, etc...yet) because I want to start meditation soon maybe by taking some lessons etc...

Maybe you should try somehting similar with whatever motivational picture that would work with you.

 

[Never_again]

Hey there buddy. Stay strong, I know that feeling too, when you get the urges surging up, your brain tries to put things into perspective and tell you "it's not a big deal bro" but IT IS and you know it because afterwards, your brain leaves you alone with all your remorses...

I've done something last Monday which works well for me not to even peek at Porn at all. I've decided to go on Monk-Mode from now on and I've literally put a picture of a monk meditating on the wall (right next to my computer screen) and everytimes the idea of peek at nude pics crosses my mind, I look at it until I take control of my mind again. Well, it works with me (I know absolutely nothing about meditation, budhism, yoga, etc...yet) because I want to start meditation soon maybe by taking some lessons etc...

Maybe you should try somehting similar with whatever motivational picture that would work with you.

Thanks for your support,

I don't really if a picture of a monk would help me, but I like that idea of an inpirational picture near my computer to remind me why I'm doing that or anything else that would prevent me from watching porn.
I gotta list powerful reasons : reasons why quitting porn could be the best thing I could do to myself.

 

[Never_again]

Day 1 :

Too tired and too busy to watch porn, no urges.

My morning wood are coming back !

Great!

 

[Never_again]

Things aren't going well in my life at the moment but I'm at day 6 of my reboot! My best so far is 10 days and I KNOW I'm going to beat this record because I'm gonna be too busy during the next 4 days to watch any porn.

I'm especially proud of myself because during the last 6 days I've been very free and often at home alone. I had many opportunities to masturbate but I everytimes I resisted the urges!

I started taking (freezing) cold showers a lot more frequently now, and I love the feeling I get after them, and I'm pretty sure it helps at containing myself to PMO.

See you in 4 days to see if I beated my record.

 

[SETI]

Well done! I really respect you resisting the urges. It takes some determination and also knowledge. Taking inspiration from you today!

Keep it up!