Hello everybody - welcome to my journal. I'm 39 and realised porn was a problem in my life when I was about 20. I've tried to stop many times and used many methods, including 12 steps and SMART recovery. These things have helped me cut down, but not quit. I had some help from a friend who was in the same boat when I was about 27, and did quit for a few years....but ended up going back to it. The companionship with my friend was very important at the time I think, so I am hoping connecting with people through this journal will help...
I guess I feel in my case, I know I need to stop. I stay up late most nights at the moment - till 3 or 4 or even 5 or 6. It's affecting my work, and my general mood. I'm exhausted - and just numb. And yet, often I want to look at porn more than I want to stop. This is my question - I know I need to stop, but how do I get to a place that I want to enough that I actually do?
Well lets see if this site helps. Setting targets for abstaining seems like a good thing, and the support of you folks will help I think.
I guess at the moment, I am trying to do this in my own way, after trying other people's methods. One new thing, is I am seeing if self-hypnosis and guided imagery for addiction will have an effect. Know it sounds weird, but I am also finding Tibetan Overtone Chanting helps! It calms the mind, and it's impossible to have obsessive thoughts when I do it... I'm trying to find out what will work for me....
Hope the above makes sense to someone other than myself.
Wish you all the best in achieving your own goals too. I know how hard this is....
I guess I feel in my case, I know I need to stop. I stay up late most nights at the moment - till 3 or 4 or even 5 or 6. It's affecting my work, and my general mood. I'm exhausted - and just numb. And yet, often I want to look at porn more than I want to stop. This is my question - I know I need to stop, but how do I get to a place that I want to enough that I actually do?
Well lets see if this site helps. Setting targets for abstaining seems like a good thing, and the support of you folks will help I think.
I guess at the moment, I am trying to do this in my own way, after trying other people's methods. One new thing, is I am seeing if self-hypnosis and guided imagery for addiction will have an effect. Know it sounds weird, but I am also finding Tibetan Overtone Chanting helps! It calms the mind, and it's impossible to have obsessive thoughts when I do it... I'm trying to find out what will work for me....
Hope the above makes sense to someone other than myself.
Wish you all the best in achieving your own goals too. I know how hard this is....
