SlaveToRighteousness
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Hi all. Just setting up my new home.
I have no need for an erection at any other time, and I could go even further to say that erections are counterproductive for me unless I am getting one with my wife. Random erections only encourage me to masturbate and/or fantasize, which are activities that I have given up.
I don't have erections all that often; but when they do happen they are great. I have no doubt that I can rise to the occasion when the time comes and before that who cares?SlaveToRighteousness said:I've been thinking about the "rebooting" process lately and have a few thoughts to share.
Unlike some of the guys that have given up PMO, I never wake up with morning wood and I almost never get an erection at any time other than when I am fooling around with my wife. In essence, if we don't have sex for a week, there is a very good chance that I would spend that entire week without getting erect at any point during the week.
This has generally been a source of concern for me, because it has made me worried that things aren't working properly "down there" and that there is something wrong with me. But I've been thinking about a more positive interpretation, which is that my goal is not to be able to get erections at random times when I have no need for them: my goal is to be able to get an erection with my wife when we are going to engage in some kind of sexual activity. I have no need for an erection at any other time, and I could go even further to say that erections are counterproductive for me unless I am getting one with my wife. Random erections only encourage me to masturbate and/or fantasize, which are activities that I have given up.
So in a sense, the ideal scenario for me would actually involve never getting an erection unless I was with my wife, and since that's pretty much where I am now, maybe I should be encouraged by my lack of random erections rather than be worried by them...
haha GREAT way of looking at things! With that said, farther down your reboot your mornind wood may come back. It took me 3 months to see life down south in the mornin : )
I don't have erections all that often; but when they do happen they are great. I have no doubt that I can rise to the occasion when the time comes and before that who cares?
That's the deal. Anxiety about erections does no good whatsoever.SlaveToRighteousness said:I don't have erections all that often; but when they do happen they are great. I have no doubt that I can rise to the occasion when the time comes and before that who cares?
Exactly. Erections are only useful when your partner wants you to have one.
fcjl8 said:Amazing how different we can be in this... I mean that is a good thing.
Sorry , that you are not over revving with your wife. Try more of the gentle non-sexual bonding???
I am the polar opposite, my wife turns me on, even more now that I am not daily looking at porn. Weird, I mostly sought out porn that had women similar to my wife?? Even my fantasy fueled M was generally about my wife, although the scene mightbe different than I would ever actually like.
Try more connection with your wife on all levels. if i am stating the obvious or you are already doing this, you can tell me off STR. I don't want to come of all sanctimonious, and i apologize if it seems that way.