Outkast84
Member
I know most of the guys on here are heterosexual, but hopefully a few of you guys out there can help out a fellow guy even though i'm gay. I'm going through a lot of what i'm reading, but I just have so many questions that I couldn't not post anymore.
As far as back story, I grew up in a house with just me and my father. He had a lot of video porn and from the time I was 9+ it was always readily accessible. I started masturbating around the age of 10. I don't think I developed a problem with porn and ED until the latter years of college. I was so busy with school that I didn't have time to date and internet porn had evolved into a whole new level. I was watching porn and masturbating daily. From the age of 15 til now i cant remember ever going more than 48 hours without masturbating. From the age of 24 until now (i'm 30) I cant remember a single fulfilling sexual experience with another man. The will was there, but the equipment wasn't working. From the age of 25 I was so embarrassed and afraid of ED while having sex, I avoided having sex or even dating. I tried a few random hook ups from time to time to see if the equipment was working, but not no avail. I do get and have full on morning wood all the time.
I eventually went to my doctor about a year ago and told him of my failures. He took blood and did all the medical things and insisted I should be able to have a complete sexual experience without the use of pharmaceuticals. He did give samples of the "blue pill" but he advised I seek out alternate reasons why I wasn't able to perform sexually. I didn't take him seriously and used the pill once with a friend whom I liked a lot, and to my shock it still didn't work. I was able to obtain an erection, but not keep it throughout the entire sexual experience.
Eventually I went to the web and found this place. I've been reading and empathizing with a lot of the stories. I've now gone a week without any porn, any masturbating and no orgasms (i've assumed this is PMO?). I've watched some of the videos on here as well and have gained a certain level of expectations.
I just feel a little lost without this part of my life. I haven't had any serious withdrawal symptoms yet, but i expect the worse. I dont want any relapses as i'm not good with failure, but I dont see how going 120 days or more without masturbating is going to help with an actual act of sex. I know this is a lot and any help on the topic would be appreciated.
Is it okay to masturbate while rebooting? Is it okay to have sex while rebooting? How do you really know if your reboot is done if your not having sex or masturbating? Is there any way to "check" on your own progress. I really struggled through my 20s because of this problem and i want my 30's to be so much better. Thanks for reading this if you made it this far.
As far as back story, I grew up in a house with just me and my father. He had a lot of video porn and from the time I was 9+ it was always readily accessible. I started masturbating around the age of 10. I don't think I developed a problem with porn and ED until the latter years of college. I was so busy with school that I didn't have time to date and internet porn had evolved into a whole new level. I was watching porn and masturbating daily. From the age of 15 til now i cant remember ever going more than 48 hours without masturbating. From the age of 24 until now (i'm 30) I cant remember a single fulfilling sexual experience with another man. The will was there, but the equipment wasn't working. From the age of 25 I was so embarrassed and afraid of ED while having sex, I avoided having sex or even dating. I tried a few random hook ups from time to time to see if the equipment was working, but not no avail. I do get and have full on morning wood all the time.
I eventually went to my doctor about a year ago and told him of my failures. He took blood and did all the medical things and insisted I should be able to have a complete sexual experience without the use of pharmaceuticals. He did give samples of the "blue pill" but he advised I seek out alternate reasons why I wasn't able to perform sexually. I didn't take him seriously and used the pill once with a friend whom I liked a lot, and to my shock it still didn't work. I was able to obtain an erection, but not keep it throughout the entire sexual experience.
Eventually I went to the web and found this place. I've been reading and empathizing with a lot of the stories. I've now gone a week without any porn, any masturbating and no orgasms (i've assumed this is PMO?). I've watched some of the videos on here as well and have gained a certain level of expectations.
I just feel a little lost without this part of my life. I haven't had any serious withdrawal symptoms yet, but i expect the worse. I dont want any relapses as i'm not good with failure, but I dont see how going 120 days or more without masturbating is going to help with an actual act of sex. I know this is a lot and any help on the topic would be appreciated.
Is it okay to masturbate while rebooting? Is it okay to have sex while rebooting? How do you really know if your reboot is done if your not having sex or masturbating? Is there any way to "check" on your own progress. I really struggled through my 20s because of this problem and i want my 30's to be so much better. Thanks for reading this if you made it this far.