Few questions about reboot process

[breguet]

Ok, let me say at the outset that I don't consider myself a hardcore porn addict, but I have watched my fair share of it in the past and have on occasion experienced symptoms of porn induced ED during sex (e.g. cannot maintain erection without constant simulation or thinking about some fantasies) and decided that a reboot is necessary. Quitting porn is easy for me so far, I haven't watched any in two weeks and feel no desire to do so. Masturbation on the other hand is more hard to quit/reduce. I have reduced it greatly, from every day to maybe 2,3 times a week.

Now, I have a few questions. As currently I am away from home I engage in skype sex/sexting with my girlfriend on occasion (once or twice a week). Is this bad for my reboot? Secondly, is it a problem if I ejaculate once or twice a week either as a result of these skype sessions or by myself (not imagining any porn scenarios, but maybe fantasizing about real life situations)? What about masturbating to pics/videos of my gf? Again, I feel no need to watch porn/sex pics, but it's really hard not to ejaculate once or twice a week and I am wondering whether this will set me back a lot. Any help will be appreciated!

 

[challenged]

Take a look at the articles on yourbrainonporn.com, and particularly the section on "Rebooting Basics."  (I have set forth the link below.)  It addressees most or all of your questions.

You also need to keep in mind that rebooting is an individual experiment, and except for some obvious rules (e.g., no porn of any kind), different rules or guidelines apply for different persons.  So, for example, Skype sex might not be an issue for some, because it involves directing one's thoughts towards a real person, while for others it might be problematic, because it is somewhat similar to M to an image on the screen.

I would say that the overwhelming consensus is that it is a bad idea to be M to pics/videos of one's girlfriend or wife, because this is just too close to your typical porn, so stay away from that during the reboot process.  I also think many would recommend staying away from M as much as possible during the rebooting process, because of the likelihood this could lead you back to porn (but this is also covered on "Rebooting Basics").

Welcome to the forum.  Here is the link:  http://yourbrainonporn.com/node/79

 

[breguet]

Thank you! I will take a look. With regard to M you might be right, keeping it to the minimum and no pics/vids seems best...I am a little worried, though, since I will be back home in the beginning of April and will not be able to "avoid" sex for sure, but I hope by then there will be some results as long as I am consistent. This flatline concept scares me though...

 

[Phase2]

I think if you want your brain to develop new pathways for what turns you on, there needs to be a long period of time when you do do nothing sexually to allow your brain to reset. No one likes to hear this, but it means a period of no orgasm. What exactly that period is is not set in stone but I'd suggest a month at minimum. Listen to the radio shows that feature Gary Wilson. He's the man with the science to back this thinking up. https://soundcloud.com/yourbrainrebalancedshow