Haha, seriously, are we twin brothers? I have the exact same thing, up to editing scenes for my collection that only contained that part, and not being able to come during real sex without thinking about it. I must restrain myself from writing about it too much here, as the a-word alone will trigger me. I used to think of it as an acquired taste, yes, being even proud of it, but in hindsight I think I was bullshitting myself into believing it was just a quirky feature of me instead of a threat to enjoying real-life intimacy and sexuality. Which it is. I am not saying the act itself is bad, because it can be a healthy part of any loving relationship, and if played right with the right girlfriend, on special occasions, they DO like it... But it being a fetish, making intimacy and vaginal sex seem boring in comparison is very harmful in my view.
I have to say I notice that my fantasies, both conscious and subconscious, are 'normalizing'. Just thinking about regular sex with girls I've been with, or thinking about a threesome: something apparently all guys ever think of but always seemed like a ultra-frightening idea to me - having to entertain two girls at the same time. Maybe my fear of 'having to perform' is subsiding
About your experience: I don't think the dreams are bad for you. Dreams are a healthy way to deal with thoughts and experiences that you had during the day. Not much you can do about it anyway. I do however feel that thinking about the stuff you like, even writing about it in detail here, can be unwise. For me at least, if I would do that, if would definitely count as artificial stimulation... I know that before I understood the reboot rules, during a time of refraining from porn, I often went to apparently harmless sites to read about a-word related stuff (such as: looking up in which mainstream books or movies it is mentioned), and it always contributed to my relapse.
I have to say I notice that my fantasies, both conscious and subconscious, are 'normalizing'. Just thinking about regular sex with girls I've been with, or thinking about a threesome: something apparently all guys ever think of but always seemed like a ultra-frightening idea to me - having to entertain two girls at the same time. Maybe my fear of 'having to perform' is subsiding
About your experience: I don't think the dreams are bad for you. Dreams are a healthy way to deal with thoughts and experiences that you had during the day. Not much you can do about it anyway. I do however feel that thinking about the stuff you like, even writing about it in detail here, can be unwise. For me at least, if I would do that, if would definitely count as artificial stimulation... I know that before I understood the reboot rules, during a time of refraining from porn, I often went to apparently harmless sites to read about a-word related stuff (such as: looking up in which mainstream books or movies it is mentioned), and it always contributed to my relapse.