Edging With a Partner
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Hi Graham
First - Well done on communicating the issue with your SO - definitely the right step IMO
What are your problems? ED? DE? PE?
I've been having intercourse with my SO but no luck finishing so far and I've been P/MO free since 1/1/15 - Erections are better and my performance anxiety seems to have gone. I can feel my sensitivity improving over time. I've edged with her a lot of times but just been unable to finish. It looks like I'm going in the right direction, but can't give you a proper answer until I've recovered (which I hope is really soon).
Maybe someone else who has recovered can give you a better insight, but I assume that a little edging with a partner is a good thing as it helps rewire your brain.
I'm not certain on this though and I'm not a doctor.
Good luck with everything
M
First - Well done on communicating the issue with your SO - definitely the right step IMO
What are your problems? ED? DE? PE?
I've been having intercourse with my SO but no luck finishing so far and I've been P/MO free since 1/1/15 - Erections are better and my performance anxiety seems to have gone. I can feel my sensitivity improving over time. I've edged with her a lot of times but just been unable to finish. It looks like I'm going in the right direction, but can't give you a proper answer until I've recovered (which I hope is really soon).
Maybe someone else who has recovered can give you a better insight, but I assume that a little edging with a partner is a good thing as it helps rewire your brain.
I'm not certain on this though and I'm not a doctor.
Good luck with everything
M
Phase2
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You should listen to all the radio shows on YBOP. Gary Wilson has said that the problem here is PORN. Masturbating to porn is bad. Edging to porn is bad. Avoid the pixels!
However, humans are good! Masturbating with humans is good. Edging with humans is good. The whole point is to be sexual with actual people (so long as you are not fantasizing about porn while doing so). Human contact is encouraged, especially after a significant period of rest time--its called rewiring which is teaching your brain to get sexual satisfaction from people again.
Start by listening to the shows with Gary Wilson in them. He is a scientist and explains all the thinking very well. https://soundcloud.com/yourbrainrebalancedshow
However, humans are good! Masturbating with humans is good. Edging with humans is good. The whole point is to be sexual with actual people (so long as you are not fantasizing about porn while doing so). Human contact is encouraged, especially after a significant period of rest time--its called rewiring which is teaching your brain to get sexual satisfaction from people again.
Start by listening to the shows with Gary Wilson in them. He is a scientist and explains all the thinking very well. https://soundcloud.com/yourbrainrebalancedshow
grahamman said:
Graham,
I had performance anxiety issues for a while that meant I just couldn't get hard and couldn't use a condom, then after just over a week of no sex, I was on top of her playing around and she put me inside her and I was fine with no oral before hand. No condom which was a bit bad, but we had good sex...except for my persistent DE. I guess my point is to try foreplay but don't have her give you oral - I'm not advocating that you have unprotected sex haha
Good luck