I haven't been by in a while. Part of that was intentional. Sometimes you just have to stop thinking about it.
I've had a LOT of success. I've had some failure too, but overall, things have gotten much, much better. A few months ago, I couldn't have real sex at all, even with Viagra. In the last few weeks, things with my wife have finally returned to something that I think is more normal. I can't say strongly enough how important this is. Once you get "the real thing" working right, it makes a huge difference. Don't underestimate how devastating this mess is to your confidence. Getting things going makes you feel like a different person. Not just in regards to sex. You're just more confidant. Everything feels "right". I'm more decisive at work. I'm more motivated to get projects done. I'm better about getting to the gym and working out. I'm more outgoing with people. But mostly, I'm happy most of the time.
Just wanted to share. Stick with it. It works out. If you have a set back, it doesn't undo everything. Don't let it turn into an excuse for a binge. Don't beat yourself up. Just say "OK. That happened, but now it's over. Back to the plan." And if you're married, keep working on that relationship. Explain to your wife that it's really important for you to be sexual with her, even if you can't perform yet. Just do what you can. ;-) Once you reach a tipping point, the real thing becomes far more desirable than watching someone else do it. And when that happens, it's a lot easier to resist the temptation.
I've had a LOT of success. I've had some failure too, but overall, things have gotten much, much better. A few months ago, I couldn't have real sex at all, even with Viagra. In the last few weeks, things with my wife have finally returned to something that I think is more normal. I can't say strongly enough how important this is. Once you get "the real thing" working right, it makes a huge difference. Don't underestimate how devastating this mess is to your confidence. Getting things going makes you feel like a different person. Not just in regards to sex. You're just more confidant. Everything feels "right". I'm more decisive at work. I'm more motivated to get projects done. I'm better about getting to the gym and working out. I'm more outgoing with people. But mostly, I'm happy most of the time.
Just wanted to share. Stick with it. It works out. If you have a set back, it doesn't undo everything. Don't let it turn into an excuse for a binge. Don't beat yourself up. Just say "OK. That happened, but now it's over. Back to the plan." And if you're married, keep working on that relationship. Explain to your wife that it's really important for you to be sexual with her, even if you can't perform yet. Just do what you can. ;-) Once you reach a tipping point, the real thing becomes far more desirable than watching someone else do it. And when that happens, it's a lot easier to resist the temptation.