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Gr?y
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I'll introduce myself here as Gr?y. I am 35, and have been using internet pornography since I was about 15 years old. I am married and have two young boys with a third on the way.
In 2010/2011 I had an awakening of sorts that led to about 120 days of sobriety, followed by a short (3-4 days maybe) relapse. Then another 90 days being PMO free before another crash. Those were the longest periods of sobriety in the past 20 years. For the past couple of years I have been PMO almost daily. Although there are occasional stints of 4-5 days where I am too busy to act out, those are usually just coincidental.
A few months ago, after what I would consider a rough (not rough as in separation or divorce, but not ideal) year for my wife and I, we found out she was pregnant with our third. We've had sex maybe five or six times since then, but my P usage has jumped up considerably.
I often find myself fantasizing about my wife during the day, then turning to P since it is available. By the time I get home at night I have nothing left for my wife. Nothing, no energy, not even any real desire. I feel horrible for writing that because I do love her. She is beautiful. And even now, maybe even especially now, that she is pregnant I want to be intimate with her. But I just can't seem to find it within me.
Three times during the last week she has initiated sex. That is somewhat out of character for her, so I felt like I had to respond, only to be smashed face first into PIED. I've never had that trouble before, but lately, even when she is willing and immediately available, I feel nothing.
I last used P on Sunday, PMO was sometime before that... maybe late Thursday early Friday. I'll be conservative and say that puts me headed into my third day.
I don't want to hurt my wife any more. I don't want my kids to have a father who is addicted to pornography. I don't want to be the liar and coward that I have been.
I don't know if I'm really looking for any advice here. But this community seems supportive and I hope I can help others and possibly find some encouragement myself.
Starting day three. My first goal will be just 14 days. I will try to post daily, and hopefully move on to my 30, 60, and 90 days for a full reboot. My end goal is to be rid of this part of me forever. But for now, its just 14 days.
In 2010/2011 I had an awakening of sorts that led to about 120 days of sobriety, followed by a short (3-4 days maybe) relapse. Then another 90 days being PMO free before another crash. Those were the longest periods of sobriety in the past 20 years. For the past couple of years I have been PMO almost daily. Although there are occasional stints of 4-5 days where I am too busy to act out, those are usually just coincidental.
A few months ago, after what I would consider a rough (not rough as in separation or divorce, but not ideal) year for my wife and I, we found out she was pregnant with our third. We've had sex maybe five or six times since then, but my P usage has jumped up considerably.
I often find myself fantasizing about my wife during the day, then turning to P since it is available. By the time I get home at night I have nothing left for my wife. Nothing, no energy, not even any real desire. I feel horrible for writing that because I do love her. She is beautiful. And even now, maybe even especially now, that she is pregnant I want to be intimate with her. But I just can't seem to find it within me.
Three times during the last week she has initiated sex. That is somewhat out of character for her, so I felt like I had to respond, only to be smashed face first into PIED. I've never had that trouble before, but lately, even when she is willing and immediately available, I feel nothing.
I last used P on Sunday, PMO was sometime before that... maybe late Thursday early Friday. I'll be conservative and say that puts me headed into my third day.
I don't want to hurt my wife any more. I don't want my kids to have a father who is addicted to pornography. I don't want to be the liar and coward that I have been.
I don't know if I'm really looking for any advice here. But this community seems supportive and I hope I can help others and possibly find some encouragement myself.
Starting day three. My first goal will be just 14 days. I will try to post daily, and hopefully move on to my 30, 60, and 90 days for a full reboot. My end goal is to be rid of this part of me forever. But for now, its just 14 days.