33 y/o - just started reboot - have some questions
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Guys - Thank you for the support and comments
Nick - great Advice and ever so true!
Tbriana - I'm sorry you're having a tough one today but you are not alone.
I am expecting to have harder days ahead but I know it'll be worth it in the end. This morning I felt like I was going to explode and have been having purges of that feeling through out the day. This morning I had thoughts of P but was able to get those thoughts out of my mind and ended up thinking about real sex that I have had. Probably not the best idea but I am trying to focus on reality as opposed to any fantasy.
From getting myself into the mindset of no P it is essentially making not want to M although I want to O; i just don't want to do it.
I'd only ever MO when I was watching P. Now I just want the O and I want the O from real, healthy interaction and intimacy.
Nick - great Advice and ever so true!
Tbriana - I'm sorry you're having a tough one today but you are not alone.
I am expecting to have harder days ahead but I know it'll be worth it in the end. This morning I felt like I was going to explode and have been having purges of that feeling through out the day. This morning I had thoughts of P but was able to get those thoughts out of my mind and ended up thinking about real sex that I have had. Probably not the best idea but I am trying to focus on reality as opposed to any fantasy.
From getting myself into the mindset of no P it is essentially making not want to M although I want to O; i just don't want to do it.
I'd only ever MO when I was watching P. Now I just want the O and I want the O from real, healthy interaction and intimacy.
Day 13-
Feeling much better today than yesterday. I hit the gym last night. i didnt move any weight, I just stayed on the treadmill and alternated speeds doing sprinter bursts. It definitely released pent up tension. I'll need to do that regularly and recommend it to everyone. If I don't meet friends for dinner tonight, I'll be at the gym again - definitely gonna move some weight.
Feeling good about myself and my progress but not all that confident around women right now.
Has anybody else felt a lack of outward confidence towards women during the first few weeks of reboot?
Thanks for reading
Feeling much better today than yesterday. I hit the gym last night. i didnt move any weight, I just stayed on the treadmill and alternated speeds doing sprinter bursts. It definitely released pent up tension. I'll need to do that regularly and recommend it to everyone. If I don't meet friends for dinner tonight, I'll be at the gym again - definitely gonna move some weight.
Feeling good about myself and my progress but not all that confident around women right now.
Has anybody else felt a lack of outward confidence towards women during the first few weeks of reboot?
Thanks for reading
Start of Day 14
Was having all types of sexually charged dreams and thoughts. If thoughts went towards P, I would redirect them to a real sexual encounter I'd had and try to understand why this was happening- then, move on from sex thoughts altogether
I had a really close call with MO this morning. I was erect and my brain almost tricked me into a dopamine rush. I prevailed but was a close call. IN the end it was empowering, I didn't give in to it, so maybe reboot is working.
Was having all types of sexually charged dreams and thoughts. If thoughts went towards P, I would redirect them to a real sexual encounter I'd had and try to understand why this was happening- then, move on from sex thoughts altogether
I had a really close call with MO this morning. I was erect and my brain almost tricked me into a dopamine rush. I prevailed but was a close call. IN the end it was empowering, I didn't give in to it, so maybe reboot is working.
Mature Masculine
Member
Great journal my friend. Well done on reaching fifteen days. I too have felt the benefit of getting back into exercise, so I can relate to how you are feeling in regard to using the gym to aid your reboot. All the best and keep going!
Happy Holidays everyone.
I haven't posted since day 15. I needed to take a step back and try to think about it for a few days. Since Day 15 on 3/22 til today has been a total of 29 DAYS with NO PMO, M or O. Im feeling really good.
Had a issue at work with this lady that i fool around with. We mess around in the office which gets me going. I was def aroused and wanted to O but didn't O. A little while later I went to the bathroom and at the end of my urination there was definitely semen. This ever happen to anybody? It was a little scary, it's making me nervous for when I do have a serious sexual encounter other than this play thing I have in my office.
Any advice?
I haven't posted since day 15. I needed to take a step back and try to think about it for a few days. Since Day 15 on 3/22 til today has been a total of 29 DAYS with NO PMO, M or O. Im feeling really good.
Had a issue at work with this lady that i fool around with. We mess around in the office which gets me going. I was def aroused and wanted to O but didn't O. A little while later I went to the bathroom and at the end of my urination there was definitely semen. This ever happen to anybody? It was a little scary, it's making me nervous for when I do have a serious sexual encounter other than this play thing I have in my office.
Any advice?
Janson2015
Member
Just sounds like leakage. I had something similar happen a couple times. I didn't notice until I went to flush. I just saw a white film in the toilet, and assumed it was semen. Doc also noted cloudiness in my urine sample. Pretty sure it was leakage, but shrugged and said I had no idea.
This doesn't sound like retrograde because that actually requires an orgasm, I believe, and involves the semen going into the bladder instead of out of the body.
You do not have to worry about this during intercourse. This will not happen. Sounds like you were just close and so the semen began traveling out, then you didn't O. Had to exit the body, so it came out during urination. I wouldn't worry about it.
This doesn't sound like retrograde because that actually requires an orgasm, I believe, and involves the semen going into the bladder instead of out of the body.
You do not have to worry about this during intercourse. This will not happen. Sounds like you were just close and so the semen began traveling out, then you didn't O. Had to exit the body, so it came out during urination. I wouldn't worry about it.
Mature Masculine
Member
From what I've read and my own experience, this is quite normal. Years of masturbation can leave your prostate a little inflamed, so occasionally some semen does leak after urination or taking a dump. Here's an article on it: http://yourbrainonporn.com/what-about-semen-leakage In your case, however, it seems like being excited over this woman at work may be the true cause. I wouldn't worry, particularly during intercourse.
DAY 35 NO PMO
I had a wet dream last night. I couldn't believe it. I was a having a sexually charged dream and when I had an O in the dream, sure enough, it was a wet dream.
I have a mixed feeling about it. I feel a little hornier at the moment than I have felt in a about two weeks and am afraid of a chaser effect. I was thinking that I was really flatlining. My childlike horniness and urge to O had rally subsided in the past two weeks
At the same time I am thankful for the release. After PMO for such a long time on daily basis, this was needed. I think i felt the rush from my loins to my brain. i definitely felt a surge in my brain. As I'm typing, I'm really happy that it happened. The strength of the erection I woke up with I haven't felt in years.
Mature Masculine and Janson - thanks for your support and posts. This is a difficult yet powerful process we've undertaken, it's good to know that there are others out there who've had these experiences.
I had a wet dream last night. I couldn't believe it. I was a having a sexually charged dream and when I had an O in the dream, sure enough, it was a wet dream.
I have a mixed feeling about it. I feel a little hornier at the moment than I have felt in a about two weeks and am afraid of a chaser effect. I was thinking that I was really flatlining. My childlike horniness and urge to O had rally subsided in the past two weeks
At the same time I am thankful for the release. After PMO for such a long time on daily basis, this was needed. I think i felt the rush from my loins to my brain. i definitely felt a surge in my brain. As I'm typing, I'm really happy that it happened. The strength of the erection I woke up with I haven't felt in years.
Mature Masculine and Janson - thanks for your support and posts. This is a difficult yet powerful process we've undertaken, it's good to know that there are others out there who've had these experiences.
mosa said:
Hi Mosa.
My experience of avoiding a "real" urge to MO is this that the next day i would feel great and have tons of energy, so work your way thru the urges and feel awesome.
Redirecting a fantazy, to an old sexual experience? This is not healthy, and its happening because your brain is crying out for a dopamine hit.
Hey Harpoon, thank you for your comment and reaching out, much appreciated.
I believed it'd be better to momentarily switch focus on something that was a real experience to get away from any thoughts of P. Are you saying to just redirect sexual thoughts of P and real sexual experiences, to anything non-sexual, during this reboot phase?
As far as the wet dream, which was a full on sexual encounter in my dream, are you of the opinion that body subconsciously needs the dopamine rush or is having a healthy release? This was the first vivd sexual dream I've had. The strength of the erection I had I haven't felt in a long time, not even while PMO. I was quite happy to find out that it could get there.
Thank you again for reaching out. Look forward to more communication
I believed it'd be better to momentarily switch focus on something that was a real experience to get away from any thoughts of P. Are you saying to just redirect sexual thoughts of P and real sexual experiences, to anything non-sexual, during this reboot phase?
As far as the wet dream, which was a full on sexual encounter in my dream, are you of the opinion that body subconsciously needs the dopamine rush or is having a healthy release? This was the first vivd sexual dream I've had. The strength of the erection I had I haven't felt in a long time, not even while PMO. I was quite happy to find out that it could get there.
Thank you again for reaching out. Look forward to more communication