My libido is like dead

[Paddrecon]

Greetings everyone,

I have read most of the articles, user responses on YBOP and decided the quit porn cold-turkey. So far it has been 31 days that I last watched porn and I am dedicated to quit it forever. In that 31 days I masturbated and orgasmed regularly and even had an encounter with an escort that I hired. In that experience I got a really hard boner; however, my ejaculation was really delayed. Furthermore, I was socially awkward around girls and this seems to be changing also. Can someone tell his/her opinion on this matter and if it is normal? Note that I had been masturbating to porn since the age of 13 and I only had sex with hookers and escort on a pretty scattered basis.

 

[Norfolker]

Paddrecon,
I think what you're experiencing is totally normal but one thing I would recommend is to try going without masturbation along with porn.  See if that helps.  Only allow yourself to get off with an actual person so that you rewire your brain to a human body.  That's what I'm doing.  My only jollies come from my wife.  Maybe that can help?  Social awkwardness has definitely been shown to be associated with porn addiction.  Check out the book Your Brain on Porn (if you have a device, you can get it on Kindle for $4 on Amazon).  It goes into this particular issue.  Good luck to you.

 

[Budfox]

Greetings everyone,

I have read most of the articles, user responses on YBOP and decided the quit porn cold-turkey. So far it has been 31 days that I last watched porn and I am dedicated to quit it forever. In that 31 days I masturbated and orgasmed regularly and even had an encounter with an escort that I hired. In that experience I got a really hard boner; however, my ejaculation was really delayed. Furthermore, I was socially awkward around girls and this seems to be changing also. Can someone tell his/her opinion on this matter and if it is normal? Note that I had been masturbating to porn since the age of 13 and I only had sex with hookers and escort on a pretty scattered basis.

I have always been socially awkward around women and i have been hooked on porn from a young age. Just last week i had a horrible experience with a girl who was literally hanging off me and i still found a way to mess it up lol.

I dont know if porn is to blame or what but it probably doesn't help. I never knew about this until now but i have always felt inferior to my friends when it comes to women.

 

[challenged]

I would think that engaging in a sex with hookers and escorts would not be a good way to learn to relate to the typical woman one encounters in life.  (And that's putting aside the fact that many such women are in that situation due to sex trafficking, child abuse, etc.)

It also appears that frequent M during the early stages of a reboot might not be helpful for younger rebooters.

I would try to stay away from M for a while, and hookers and escorts permanently, and rewire yourself to having a normal relationship with the type of real woman that you encounter in your everyday life at work, school, the grocery store, etc. 

And as far as inferiority and confidence goes, these are just self-fulfilling prophecies.  Some guys are confident, because they act confident.  We're all not that much different when it comes to women, and rebooting oneself to "normal" sexuality and eliminating porn will probably help a great deal.

 

[Paddrecon]

I would think that engaging in a sex with hookers and escorts would not be a good way to learn to relate to the typical woman one encounters in life.  (And that's putting aside the fact that many such women are in that situation due to sex trafficking, child abuse, etc.)

It also appears that frequent M during the early stages of a reboot might not be helpful for younger rebooters.

I would try to stay away from M for a while, and hookers and escorts permanently, and rewire yourself to having a normal relationship with the type of real woman that you encounter in your everyday life at work, school, the grocery store, etc. 

And as far as inferiority and confidence goes, these are just self-fulfilling prophecies.  Some guys are confident, because they act confident.  We're all not that much different when it comes to women, and rebooting oneself to "normal" sexuality and eliminating porn will probably help a great deal.

I totally agree with you thanks for the support.

 

[Psychosocial1997]

I used to be really awkward but lately iv been surprising myself. I think I'm coming off it a bit idk tho. but i mean from what i understand you should probably stop masturbating completely and continue any real contact with women. I heard its all about the real contact cause we're wired to images...idk tho i might be very wrong but then again no one really knows about this shit

 

[leram]

Greetings everyone,

I have read most of the articles, user responses on YBOP and decided the quit porn cold-turkey. So far it has been 31 days that I last watched porn and I am dedicated to quit it forever. In that 31 days I masturbated and orgasmed regularly and even had an encounter with an escort that I hired. In that experience I got a really hard boner; however, my ejaculation was really delayed. Furthermore, I was socially awkward around girls and this seems to be changing also. Can someone tell his/her opinion on this matter and if it is normal? Note that I had been masturbating to porn since the age of 13 and I only had sex with hookers and escort on a pretty scattered basis.

When your libido is dead = A VERY GOOD SIGN.

All the progress I notice comes when my libido drops. At that moment, you have some chemical imbalances in your brain that influence and interfere with your life. Those are tough moments, but your readiness, and real willingness to get better is chakkennged. If you're willing to pay the price, you'll get better, If not, you'll jack off or watch porn, then, ruin your progress.

Take it as a lesson, and don't bash yourself. I bashed myself for a year, and, won nothing. I stopped bashing myself, and enhanced my lifestyle: I introduced regular and correct weight lifting,  HIIT, Mindfulness, meditation, healthy diet, I trashed my bad habits like mindlesss surfing and obessive humor videos watching etc..
Things got better, and, I'm still recovering. The actual progress is more than satisfying. (Studies, health, confidence ...)

 

[qrayzHD]

I thought i had low libido for years but i realized my libido was fine when i was watching porn. I went over 160 days porn free but my longest hardmode streak was only 45 days and i noticed no improvement in libido, i would now recommend only doing hardmode as i frankly believe that softmode is a waste of time.