HOW do I recover?

[Marko7776]

When all the books are filled with sex, with all of my friends CONSTANTLY AND ONLY talking about sex, showing me pictures of girls, when all the movies have sex, when all the songs PLAYING IN THE GYM talks about sex. HOW do I have a girlfriend, if she keeps sending me sext messages and sluty pictures. What the fuck? What books do I read? What movies do I watch? I do not have any real friends and I fucked up school so I'm waiting for september to go to school again I have too much free time. Recovery is imposible. I know that if I quit, i will never be able to acomplish anything in life or have sex, but I think I'm quitting, I've been trying for almost a year now. I just torn a concert ticked, because I don't feel like ever going out of my house again, what the fuck do i do?

 

[mtaha2015]

avoid potential triggers.

 

[DragonSlayer]

Expressing all of this in text form might be helpful but I would maybe try shouting too? Just shout at the top of your lungs to get it all out.

This frustration reminds me of my first reboot attempt (before I actually understood how everything actually worked). I was in high school and a Christian and needed to stop PMOing. My determination was enough in the beginning even to the point where I would wake up and not even know if I had any libido in me at all. But then came the wet dreams...

I felt like Satan was chasing me. Forcing me to have lustful images played out in my mind. You're not gonna look at porn anymore? Fine, I'll just get ya when you're sleeping.

Of course I conveniently didn't know at the time that any man abstaining from O over long periods of time had wet dreams.

Anyway. What you say about being surrounded by sex is true but also not true. For an addict, it seems absolutely true - almost like you can't get away from it no matter how hard you try.

DON'T BELIEVE IT

This is just your mind trying to rationalize you into giving up. The reality is there is a lot of sex out there but we have the power to surround ourselves with less of it. Even if we are forced to look at sexual images we have the choice not to stare and react with lust.

The conundrum you speak of should teach you and everyone here a valuable lesson. There is only one intelligent way of dealing with addiction. You have to kill it.

Imagine you have arachnophobia. There are two possible ways of dealing with your irrational fear. You can either try to live in a world without spiders (impossible) or you can eliminate the fear itself (possible).

Do you see your problem? You are complaining that the world isn't conforming conveniently to make it impossible for you to feed your bad habit. Well no, it isn't. Similarly the person trying to lose weight isn't going to stop being surrounded by fatty foods. They can complain too, but it won't help them.

Instead of trying to change the world, change yourself. You are human and your mind is more powerful than you can imagine. Surely it is more powerful than some sext or a picture. You deserve to be better than your addiction so start acting like it.