Sanju
Member
I am 33 years old and have been addicted to porn for 23 years. Damn, that's a long time. I won't go into all the details of my history with it for now, but at some point I would like to share that story.
But the important thing is that two weeks ago I made the decision to end this chapter in my life once and for all. Since then I have not P'd, M'd or O'd.
Here are my reasons for doing so:
1. I recently realized that my addiction to porn was at the core of a lot of 'unexplained' emotional, psychological and even physical health issues that have plagued my life for some time now and I'm ready for that to stop.
2. Porn sucks the true happiness out of my life and I want it back.
3. My addiction has ruined or greatly diminished the quality in all of my relationships. It forces me to keep my family, friends, girlfriends and coworkers at a distance and I feel like I can never really be myself around them because of this secret I'm hiding. And ultimately, those people I care about suffer on account of my addiction too.
4. I really want to get married and have kids someday. I believe that will happen but I know there is no room for porn in that scenario.
5. I am a Christian (not a very good one obviously) and porn has always been a barrier between me and my spirituality. If I can't connect with what I truly believe, then I am spiritually stranded. That's probably the biggest one for me (and the easiest one to overlook).
There are so many other reasons I could go on about, but these were my top five.
So today is day 15 and so far, it's been going ok. I started feeling alive again after 7 days (btw, I am one of those who needs to avoid all stimulation for awhile, so no fapin to imaginary porn either). But recently, that feeling of aliveness has tapered down a bit and I think I see a long period of flat line in my future. So that's what I'm trying to cope with now.
Sighhh.
Anyway, that's where I'm at. One day at a time..
But the important thing is that two weeks ago I made the decision to end this chapter in my life once and for all. Since then I have not P'd, M'd or O'd.
Here are my reasons for doing so:
1. I recently realized that my addiction to porn was at the core of a lot of 'unexplained' emotional, psychological and even physical health issues that have plagued my life for some time now and I'm ready for that to stop.
2. Porn sucks the true happiness out of my life and I want it back.
3. My addiction has ruined or greatly diminished the quality in all of my relationships. It forces me to keep my family, friends, girlfriends and coworkers at a distance and I feel like I can never really be myself around them because of this secret I'm hiding. And ultimately, those people I care about suffer on account of my addiction too.
4. I really want to get married and have kids someday. I believe that will happen but I know there is no room for porn in that scenario.
5. I am a Christian (not a very good one obviously) and porn has always been a barrier between me and my spirituality. If I can't connect with what I truly believe, then I am spiritually stranded. That's probably the biggest one for me (and the easiest one to overlook).
There are so many other reasons I could go on about, but these were my top five.
So today is day 15 and so far, it's been going ok. I started feeling alive again after 7 days (btw, I am one of those who needs to avoid all stimulation for awhile, so no fapin to imaginary porn either). But recently, that feeling of aliveness has tapered down a bit and I think I see a long period of flat line in my future. So that's what I'm trying to cope with now.
Sighhh.
Anyway, that's where I'm at. One day at a time..