Can I masturbate with my girlfriend???? - please advise

[simbo67]

I think I am on the way to recovery but obviously not fully recovered.  I went from no morning wood and unable to sustain erections to now getting morning wood but only like 85% and able to sustain erection for quite a while with my GF.  In fact she thinks I'm a rock star because I can go for a long time.  Problem is that I go so long because I find it almost impossible to reach O.  I have a few times with her but it is always a struggle.  Usually I need to finish myself off.  I need opinions on if I should do this.  Even doing it myself it takes a while.  Is this just as bad a M on your own??  I actually think I can be ok if I don't get there.  I really like her and I love the physical contact.  I just think she is wondering whats up with me.  And I certainly don't want her to think it is at all her fault. 

What I would give to have that old RUSH OF EXCITEMENT and INTENSE feeling of pleasure in my dick I would get years ago and it would be all I could do to hold off orgasm!! 

 

[Maxime]

OK. The best way for her not to think it's her fault is telling her the truth.
Next, I don't know what to think of this. To me it feels like forcing it. If it's not coming, it's not coming. My gf sometimes wants to stop after I finish because she feels like she'd need to force it if she were to climax.
It happened to me too, actually.
To me, the danger is that you might fantasize while you finish yourself, and that is not what you want.

 

[simbo67]

I am definitely going to have a talk with her so she knows it has nothing to do with her.  I'm not exactly sure what I am going to say because in my case IO don't believe it was porn, or porn alone that got me here.  I think it was WAY to many years of M and then I got into the strip club scene (and I am not telling her that) and I think I just got desensitized sexually.  If anything I remember starting to watch porn because my normal fantasies were not helping me get it up anymore and I thought I needed to get some new ones!!  Combine the too much M with the strip clubs, with years of depression, some marriage problems, and then a bad case of prostatitis etc etc  I would do anything to feel normal again.  I don't want to lose this girl.  I'm falling completely in love with her which makes it so hard to understand why I can't get 100% excited!