Ok so I've been rebooting since about late Jan, early Feb.. I went through the flatline with no libido, some anxiety attacks, depression all that good stuff. I was finally able to get some morning wood not fully strong but more consistent throughout late March. I experienced semen leakage, I read somewhere that, that was a sign of your body wanting to release so about 2 days ago I had a pretty good erection and I decided to test with a condom on and my erection maintained, I did stimulate it with touch only. I O'd and I was worried I was gonna go back to flatlining but I am still able to get erect through touch and some fantasizing (only fantasizing of previous sexual encounters, and my girlfriend only, no P) any advice or input would on what to do or not to do would be greatly appreciated. I'm 25 by the way.. I've abstained from P for about 3 months and I O'd 2 months into my reboot.
25 Yr old. Seeking advice, help.
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Keep strong my man.. I would try to limit o as much as possible until 3 months.. progress isn't linear either sounds like your recovering tho..
Sounds like your doing great.
I would say jut let your body do it's thing. You don't actually need to think about it for your sexual health to improve. The artificial thing in all of our situations is porn. I've found, in my good runs without porn that my sexual life becomes non conscious. I don't mean where you are unconsciously jacking off like a zombie into a screen, I mean I just don't think about sex, I just let whatever is happening happen and try to enjoy that moment. If your brain takes care of the challenge of not looking at porn (and I know how hard that can be, cough cough, looks at counter) then your body will look after itself.
In my experience masturbating without porn can still lead to a cycle of anxiety and depression. I think there are healthy masturbators out there and I kind of wish I was one of them, but I think the connection between porn and masturbation is so strong in me that masturbation just reminds me of P, and all the associated anxieties and shame are attached to it, so I've decided to try no jerking off at all.
Anyway, all the best, keep fighting the good fight
I would say jut let your body do it's thing. You don't actually need to think about it for your sexual health to improve. The artificial thing in all of our situations is porn. I've found, in my good runs without porn that my sexual life becomes non conscious. I don't mean where you are unconsciously jacking off like a zombie into a screen, I mean I just don't think about sex, I just let whatever is happening happen and try to enjoy that moment. If your brain takes care of the challenge of not looking at porn (and I know how hard that can be, cough cough, looks at counter) then your body will look after itself.
In my experience masturbating without porn can still lead to a cycle of anxiety and depression. I think there are healthy masturbators out there and I kind of wish I was one of them, but I think the connection between porn and masturbation is so strong in me that masturbation just reminds me of P, and all the associated anxieties and shame are attached to it, so I've decided to try no jerking off at all.
Anyway, all the best, keep fighting the good fight
Thanks @Needtogetbetter... I'm trying to eat as healthy and be as active as I can or my brain will allow me since there are times when I'm just depressed as I can be and no will to do anything. Anything you'd like to share from personal experience? Any tips or advice that seem to better your mood or anything that you think helps?
@gooutside this is true because that same night I wasn't able to sleep at all, something I relate to anxiety.. Even though it wasn't as intense as it was the first time, thank god, I did experience that feeling later that day. But I do manage to get 70-80% erect by touch now... I know abstaining from O would probably only help. As I did (do) have PIED. I haven't tried sex with my girlfriend. Las time I had sex was in mid December of 2014. I just hope to get better soon. How's your reboot going?
going well except for a relapse a few days ago when I looked at P and M'ed but stopped myself before Oing.
I also had issues with PIED but they went away gradually as I stopped PMOing.
I would suggest with your girlfriend starting from the ground up as it were. Pretend you're starting all over again and just gradually build up the sexual activity and you don't need to get any point at any time, just go with what's comfortable. 1st base graduating to 2nd base etc. If you're open about it she might be really into the idea. I would also say not to 'test' yourself by stimulating yourself, I've just never personally found this an enjoyable experience and the whole point of the reboot in my mind is recalibrating sex as something that is enjoyable and relaxed, not shrouded in shame and anxiety.
I also had issues with PIED but they went away gradually as I stopped PMOing.
I would suggest with your girlfriend starting from the ground up as it were. Pretend you're starting all over again and just gradually build up the sexual activity and you don't need to get any point at any time, just go with what's comfortable. 1st base graduating to 2nd base etc. If you're open about it she might be really into the idea. I would also say not to 'test' yourself by stimulating yourself, I've just never personally found this an enjoyable experience and the whole point of the reboot in my mind is recalibrating sex as something that is enjoyable and relaxed, not shrouded in shame and anxiety.
@ Enryce First off welcome to the Nation bro. Glad you found this place and glad you reached out to me. I hope you find everything you need here. There are tons of cool and knowledgeable peeps here willing to help.
Awesome. This shows that giving up porn did in fact change some things for the better. Getting an erection, even if partial, to touch alone is a great sign of progress, one of the best signs actually. Everything you experienced so far is completely normal. Even the seamen leakage, I experienced that as well and it went away with time. Sounds like things are progressing well and quick for you.
Excellent. Not every rebooter goes back into a flatline after O. Usually the more severe cases do. With your speedy progress, so far, hopefully you will be fine. Just be careful about using fantasy. Make sure you are thinking about real life scenarios and nothing related to porn. If you feel any negative impact I'd lay off all fantasy for a while longer. Guys give mixed reports on fantasy. So each rebooter has to decide for himself what's best. Since you have sexual experience you are more likely than others to be able to benefit from it.
Congrats on 3 months my man. Keep truckin. I'd continue to spread out your testing sessions and try and get all arousal from your partner. How often you O will be up to you, depending on how you feel after. Be patient. Stay strong... it gets better.
Hope this helps
Much Love
Awesome. This shows that giving up porn did in fact change some things for the better. Getting an erection, even if partial, to touch alone is a great sign of progress, one of the best signs actually. Everything you experienced so far is completely normal. Even the seamen leakage, I experienced that as well and it went away with time. Sounds like things are progressing well and quick for you.
Excellent. Not every rebooter goes back into a flatline after O. Usually the more severe cases do. With your speedy progress, so far, hopefully you will be fine. Just be careful about using fantasy. Make sure you are thinking about real life scenarios and nothing related to porn. If you feel any negative impact I'd lay off all fantasy for a while longer. Guys give mixed reports on fantasy. So each rebooter has to decide for himself what's best. Since you have sexual experience you are more likely than others to be able to benefit from it.
Congrats on 3 months my man. Keep truckin. I'd continue to spread out your testing sessions and try and get all arousal from your partner. How often you O will be up to you, depending on how you feel after. Be patient. Stay strong... it gets better.
Hope this helps
Much Love