Ok so I've been rebooting since about late Jan, early Feb.. I went through the flatline with no libido, some anxiety attacks, depression all that good stuff. I was finally able to get some morning wood not fully strong but more consistent throughout late March. I experienced semen leakage, I read somewhere that, that was a sign of your body wanting to release so about 2 days ago I had a pretty good erection and I decided to test with a condom on and my erection maintained, I did stimulate it with touch only. I O'd and I was worried I was gonna go back to flatlining but I am still able to get erect through touch and some fantasizing (only fantasizing of previous sexual encounters, and my girlfriend only, no P) any advice or input would on what to do or not to do would be greatly appreciated. I'm 25 by the way.. I've abstained from P for about 3 months and I O'd 2 months into my reboot.
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25 yr. Old seeking advice, help
- Thread starter Enryce
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I've chose not to orgasm as I worry it may create problems for me, but if it doesn't for you then that's good, if possible I would only try and orgasm when with your girlfriend, helping you rewire, but if you are gonna masturbating with orgasm don't make it too frequent! And don't fall back into the trap you're escaping! I would try and stay away from any fantasising as well.
No ones really the same so do what works for you, it may take a while and some adjusting but you will find what is right and wrong for you! Good luck and well done so far!
No ones really the same so do what works for you, it may take a while and some adjusting but you will find what is right and wrong for you! Good luck and well done so far!
Have you told your girlfriend about you having PIED? There's no harm in trying, so far every time I've tried ive actually gotten a really good erection, which is great cus almost all the times recently before my reboot I had failed! Plus just having sexual contact will help you rewire, whether it's kissing and touching or proper sex.. I've only started recently but it's been going pretty good so far thanks, getting occasional urges but I cope with them pretty well and ive noticed improvements!!
I haven't told her, I'm terrified of doing so, not because of how she would react but because I would feel EXPOSED and vulnerable. Last time we had sex was in mid December of last year and we were both kinda drunk. It took me a while to orgasm as I went soft midway but I regained it again right after she gave me some oral stimulation. Since we don't see each other that often and the last few times I've seen her we've only gone on like outdoor dates, and some lunch dates. So I haven't tried sex with her since. The first time I noticed my ED was in mid January. And found out about YBOP late january thank god. I thought I was doomed lol... I just don't know how to break it down to her, since we've been together for about 5 months and she's really into me and I don't want to ruin things. I'm just scared.
I know exactly how you feel... I was so nervous but told my girlfriend within about 1 day of self-diagnosis, she completely understood and since our sex life has improved and it's made the reboot a hell of a lot easier! Think about it, next time you have sex and if you go soft, what are you gonna say? Youre stressed, tired? Eventually you'll have run out of excuses, and you might be hurting your girlfriend cus she'll doubt herself! My relationship has always had a lot of sex in it, yours is clearly more based on emotional or spending time together cus of your less frequent visits, so I'm sure she'll understand and will care more about you two as a couple than your sex life! Feel free to PM me I have a lot to say on dealing with this when it comes to relationships!
DragonSlayer
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Listen to User123. You're making a decision not to tell your girlfriend based on fear of what might be, which is just as stupid as making a decision based on any other unconscious desire rather than deductive reason. In doing this, you are creating unnecessary suffering for yourself out of nothing.
You will never know what might be so be comfortable with uncertainty. Also more importantly if your girlfriend doesn't want to be you, lying to her or withholding that truth is unfair to her. At the very least you are just being selfish and at the most you are just delaying her negative reaction when she finds this out. Live in your own truth. I promise this will bring the most peace in your life.
Also finally, I also recommend no fantasy at all. Fantasy is porn. It is not real. Only get aroused by real physical people.
If you are incapable of M without fantasy, then don't do it at all.
You will never know what might be so be comfortable with uncertainty. Also more importantly if your girlfriend doesn't want to be you, lying to her or withholding that truth is unfair to her. At the very least you are just being selfish and at the most you are just delaying her negative reaction when she finds this out. Live in your own truth. I promise this will bring the most peace in your life.
Also finally, I also recommend no fantasy at all. Fantasy is porn. It is not real. Only get aroused by real physical people.
If you are incapable of M without fantasy, then don't do it at all.