sodonewithit
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The reboot certainly can't hurt and even if it does nothing it will do something. I can't express the difference in myself and in those who post here.
spree said:Well best advice I've gotten so far came from a very odd place, which was a male friend of my gf's. He told her to tell me to try a cock ring. I had never used one before. I understood why it would help with erections. But after doing some research beforehand I found out that it would also help with sensitivity as well. So I was curious and ordered one online. The day that it came in the mail I was with her trying to have sex and I was hard as a rock, then there was a minor delay and I started to lose erection. She got kind of pissy and I remembered that the ring should be arriving that day so I stopped and went down to the mailbox. It was there and we immediately tried it out. I went from having no erection to having a decent one, and even though it initially felt a little bit strange. It allowed me to easily get back into the swing of it. We ran out of time and she had to leave for work before I could cum but I knew right away that I was going to have success with it. Out of the next 4 times we had sex I came 3 out of the 4 and the one time that I didn't cum I was extremely drunk and I'm sure it had a lot more to do with it. It's been an absolute game changer for me. I have zero anxiety now bc even in the case where I might start to lose erection, the ring keeps me firm enough to where I am able to keep on going and I get it back. I'm definitely more sensitive, and it seems to be getting so much better. I can totally just focus on her and enjoy it. It's awesome.
Spree in reading these stories it was clear to me there are many cases, and particularly among our age group of comorbidity; meaning that if you have ED and you PMO could be PMO could be something else, could be a combination... Definitely, and especially among the 40 and up group. I therefore, totally support your "explore all options" comment. If you think you had a PMO problem I am going to suggest that you might indeed have one.. for me the compulsion to look and the inability to forget what I was looking at made me evaluate how this differed from love making before I had all these images burned into my head. So even if there is a secondary issue I definitely think it will be beneficially to cut out PMO... Could only make things better and real life encounters more exciting.spree said:I actually don't think that I had a porn related issue. I think my particular issue has been about anxiety and death grip. And the death grip probably isn't extreme since a minor boost from a rubber ring seems to help out enough to give me success. I think the best advice I can give anyone here is to keep an open mind and actually explore your problem deeper. Bc as great as this community has been (and it has been great), my knock on it is that it has tunnel vision. Not all of the people here have a porn issue. Now I'm not saying I don't have one. But it definitely isnt my main issue. And I dont think I would have found an answer for my particular issue here. So i just hope people read this and begin exploring all options. Bc there likely are lots of options.