olafthewise
Active Member
In my balanced life, I am unemployed and have been for years. I am on welfare, it like a wage and I am entitled to it for my one of my children. My wife works and longs for me to get a job because she is wearing down and cannot continue.
As a 52 year old, fit, intelligent and Christian man, I live with this status of unemployment alone. My wife is around but not sexually available. recently she scolded me for my meanness and said I needed to shape up or sex would never happen again. As it is, she has Vaginismus (sexual coital pain) and has had it for a year without attempting treatment. She is a prude, meaning I get a lousy (that's low quality) hand job about once per week. She hides her nudity from me so for years so I sought out soft porn to make up for it.
Recently I mentioned that if I got sex every 2-3 days, I would be 50% happier. add to that 10% happiness with fitness and health, then add that we have limited amount money to live in a middle class neighborhood and plenty of healthy food, another 10% and another 10% because I am a Christian (identity only, not answered prayer). Therefore I can be 80% happy in my unemployed condition.
Reality: I get a lousy hand job, once per week... that is better than nothing. So take away the 50% from my 80% happiness and I am 30% happy. So I get cranky. I don't have a temper. So my wife expects me to walk around happy with a dumb grin on my face without being sexually fulfilled, without a career to fall back on and now give up the excitement of porn.
So I relapsed and went to my soft porn pics web site for a few days. I didn't dive into it fully. I then went into a deep, deep depression. I was in the middle of a 15 day sex starvation (she refused to sexually stimulate me). period when this occurred. I went crazy!
So, I decided to just go back to NOT viewing any porn, partially nude, fitness girls, etc.
The result: despite my depressive conditions, my depression decreased and I felt better. Finally after 15 days she sexually stimulated me (it was rushed, she was not nude and not a completed, fulfilled hand job. It was just bad.
But, my depression lifted and I am just better. My conclusion is that porn even in small amounts is as bad as heroin!
The bad news is that my life continues to be bad. My wife has numerous excuses to be a prude in bed and any depression I have is the result of looking for a job.
I envy those who have jobs and at least a wife willing to be sexually exciting in bed while quitting porn!
As a 52 year old, fit, intelligent and Christian man, I live with this status of unemployment alone. My wife is around but not sexually available. recently she scolded me for my meanness and said I needed to shape up or sex would never happen again. As it is, she has Vaginismus (sexual coital pain) and has had it for a year without attempting treatment. She is a prude, meaning I get a lousy (that's low quality) hand job about once per week. She hides her nudity from me so for years so I sought out soft porn to make up for it.
Recently I mentioned that if I got sex every 2-3 days, I would be 50% happier. add to that 10% happiness with fitness and health, then add that we have limited amount money to live in a middle class neighborhood and plenty of healthy food, another 10% and another 10% because I am a Christian (identity only, not answered prayer). Therefore I can be 80% happy in my unemployed condition.
Reality: I get a lousy hand job, once per week... that is better than nothing. So take away the 50% from my 80% happiness and I am 30% happy. So I get cranky. I don't have a temper. So my wife expects me to walk around happy with a dumb grin on my face without being sexually fulfilled, without a career to fall back on and now give up the excitement of porn.
So I relapsed and went to my soft porn pics web site for a few days. I didn't dive into it fully. I then went into a deep, deep depression. I was in the middle of a 15 day sex starvation (she refused to sexually stimulate me). period when this occurred. I went crazy!
So, I decided to just go back to NOT viewing any porn, partially nude, fitness girls, etc.
The result: despite my depressive conditions, my depression decreased and I felt better. Finally after 15 days she sexually stimulated me (it was rushed, she was not nude and not a completed, fulfilled hand job. It was just bad.
But, my depression lifted and I am just better. My conclusion is that porn even in small amounts is as bad as heroin!
The bad news is that my life continues to be bad. My wife has numerous excuses to be a prude in bed and any depression I have is the result of looking for a job.
I envy those who have jobs and at least a wife willing to be sexually exciting in bed while quitting porn!