tschulien
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Hi all,
I'm 22 years old and I've had problems with my erections ever since I started dating my current gf which was about 1 year ago. She was my first and eventhough it sucked the fist time we had sex because I couldn't keep my erection - I had no idea that one year later I might still not have improved that. There were some periods over the last year where everything worked out, but in most cases I either didn't get hard enough or I lost my erection during intercourse. I don't have to tell you how depressing this is. And I was definitely trapped in this "monkey mind". Since she had sexual experience before and apparently she's never had this problem with anyone before - her reaction definitely made things worse for me. I love her and she's very attractive! And it hurt a lot to hear from her that it makes her feel not being sexy enough because of my penis problems.
Early on I spent hours and hours on the internet, looking for a solution to fix my erection problems. I went to see the doctor - he took a blood sample and he recommended me to just talk to my gf and take things slow. And he gave me viagra just in case.
Viagra definitely helped (mostly!), but as soon as I would try to have sex without it, it wouldn't work. That was a big punch in the face, I still felt so helpless and I didn't know what to do. After that I tried many things, mental and physical things: I read two books, I tried meditation, I started eating healthier, I started working out, I watched lots of youtube videos and read lots of articles and threads on the internet, I even bought L-arignine pills, hoping that they could help me out. They didn't. After all these approaches, I was convinced that it must be a mental thing, my penis got hard when I would masturbate alone. There was just no way I could stop thinking about not getting it up/keeping it up because I truly lost hope that it'll work.
I can't believe I never came across this PIED :-\
I started watching porn since I was maybe 13 or so - My brother and I downloaded a movie which turned out to be a porn. After feeling awkward first when we opened it, I would secretly watch it alone later. And that's how it started.
Anyways, even though I watched porn over the last 10 years and maybe a lot as a teenager, I reduced my porn consumption since I got my girlfriend. (To maybe once a month) And I don't feel the urge to watch any. BUT. I'm sure I am addicted to masturbating! Over years it has become a routine. I would do it in the morning during my shower, before I go to bed once or twice (mostly to porn), and sometimes during the day. I hope this NPMO will help me recover aswell.
Why do I think I have an addiction? I tried to stop masturbating lots of times. For some reason I always told myself "this will be the last time." Or "just one more time won't make the difference." And not even 24h later I would do it again - sometimes 3 or 4 times in 2 hours. I actually think I never made it beyond 48 hours. I mostly didn't do it because I was horny, but because it was either time for my daily routine, or when I would do it when I was under pressure, or depressed. I really hope that I found my recipe to finally find my way out of this tunnel. This is day 4 now of NPMO and I feel like I have no libido anymore. No morning wood, wasn't horny a single second in the last 3 days. But I read some stories of other bro's and I know it will take weeks or more like months to recover so I'll just stay positive! Also I told my girlfriend about my plan to stop and my addiction and she's very supportive, plus we won't see each other for 3.5 months (long distance rs) so I will be able to cut out everything that's related to sex. Thank you very much for your time
I'm 22 years old and I've had problems with my erections ever since I started dating my current gf which was about 1 year ago. She was my first and eventhough it sucked the fist time we had sex because I couldn't keep my erection - I had no idea that one year later I might still not have improved that. There were some periods over the last year where everything worked out, but in most cases I either didn't get hard enough or I lost my erection during intercourse. I don't have to tell you how depressing this is. And I was definitely trapped in this "monkey mind". Since she had sexual experience before and apparently she's never had this problem with anyone before - her reaction definitely made things worse for me. I love her and she's very attractive! And it hurt a lot to hear from her that it makes her feel not being sexy enough because of my penis problems.
Early on I spent hours and hours on the internet, looking for a solution to fix my erection problems. I went to see the doctor - he took a blood sample and he recommended me to just talk to my gf and take things slow. And he gave me viagra just in case.
Viagra definitely helped (mostly!), but as soon as I would try to have sex without it, it wouldn't work. That was a big punch in the face, I still felt so helpless and I didn't know what to do. After that I tried many things, mental and physical things: I read two books, I tried meditation, I started eating healthier, I started working out, I watched lots of youtube videos and read lots of articles and threads on the internet, I even bought L-arignine pills, hoping that they could help me out. They didn't. After all these approaches, I was convinced that it must be a mental thing, my penis got hard when I would masturbate alone. There was just no way I could stop thinking about not getting it up/keeping it up because I truly lost hope that it'll work.
I can't believe I never came across this PIED :-\
I started watching porn since I was maybe 13 or so - My brother and I downloaded a movie which turned out to be a porn. After feeling awkward first when we opened it, I would secretly watch it alone later. And that's how it started.
Anyways, even though I watched porn over the last 10 years and maybe a lot as a teenager, I reduced my porn consumption since I got my girlfriend. (To maybe once a month) And I don't feel the urge to watch any. BUT. I'm sure I am addicted to masturbating! Over years it has become a routine. I would do it in the morning during my shower, before I go to bed once or twice (mostly to porn), and sometimes during the day. I hope this NPMO will help me recover aswell.
Why do I think I have an addiction? I tried to stop masturbating lots of times. For some reason I always told myself "this will be the last time." Or "just one more time won't make the difference." And not even 24h later I would do it again - sometimes 3 or 4 times in 2 hours. I actually think I never made it beyond 48 hours. I mostly didn't do it because I was horny, but because it was either time for my daily routine, or when I would do it when I was under pressure, or depressed. I really hope that I found my recipe to finally find my way out of this tunnel. This is day 4 now of NPMO and I feel like I have no libido anymore. No morning wood, wasn't horny a single second in the last 3 days. But I read some stories of other bro's and I know it will take weeks or more like months to recover so I'll just stay positive! Also I told my girlfriend about my plan to stop and my addiction and she's very supportive, plus we won't see each other for 3.5 months (long distance rs) so I will be able to cut out everything that's related to sex. Thank you very much for your time
