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wifeofafapper
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It has been three weeks since I feel what I thought was my life has been turned upside down. Im not even sure where to begin or how much is too much to share.
Ive been married eight years. We have two small children together. Those two times are the only times my husband has been able to ejaculate in me. Up until these last few weeks its been three years.
Ive always known something was wrong sexually. Typical stuff Ive been reading but Ive been made to believe it was me. Too wet....you orgasm too fast....Im tired...Im hot...We will do it in the morning.
We have beens months and months with no sex. And I can honestly say Ive tried. There was a time about a year ago I completely shut down. You can't be told nothing is wrong when there obviously is and still be intimate. Which worked for him. He would have let this go on forever....
So for the past year its been roommates...and not even good roommates...I have felt...maybe he is gay...maybe he is seeing someone else....maybe it is me.....
So back to present...I found some things a few weeks ago that indicated porn use. First off let me say I am far from a prude and if this is something he wanted to do together I would be all for it...BUT this is where I am livid....Hes withheld from me for EIGHT years while he jacked off to porn. While I am upstairs bawling my eyes out and being lonely he's getting his pleasure elsewhere. And the kicker is he's been doing it for 30 years.
So for the last three weeks...he says he done with porn...hes done with masturbating...hes done with video games...hes been going to bed when I go to bed...weve been doing regaining intimacy exercise..ie. staring into each others eyes...when he comes home from work he kisses me. He contacts me though our the day with sweet texts...All of this is awesome and what I have wanted and begged for....but I am so furious....and I just do not know what to do.
He is seeing a counselor. I went to the first session. I think for sure I am going to see someone as well.
And I guess her is my question to you that have been here. Did you get over the absolute hurt and shock of it? And how do you just let go of those lost years. I feel I have been robbed of the best years of my sexual life as a woman....nothing is going to give that back to me...
I could keep writing but I think this is a good start.
Ive been married eight years. We have two small children together. Those two times are the only times my husband has been able to ejaculate in me. Up until these last few weeks its been three years.
Ive always known something was wrong sexually. Typical stuff Ive been reading but Ive been made to believe it was me. Too wet....you orgasm too fast....Im tired...Im hot...We will do it in the morning.
We have beens months and months with no sex. And I can honestly say Ive tried. There was a time about a year ago I completely shut down. You can't be told nothing is wrong when there obviously is and still be intimate. Which worked for him. He would have let this go on forever....
So for the past year its been roommates...and not even good roommates...I have felt...maybe he is gay...maybe he is seeing someone else....maybe it is me.....
So back to present...I found some things a few weeks ago that indicated porn use. First off let me say I am far from a prude and if this is something he wanted to do together I would be all for it...BUT this is where I am livid....Hes withheld from me for EIGHT years while he jacked off to porn. While I am upstairs bawling my eyes out and being lonely he's getting his pleasure elsewhere. And the kicker is he's been doing it for 30 years.
So for the last three weeks...he says he done with porn...hes done with masturbating...hes done with video games...hes been going to bed when I go to bed...weve been doing regaining intimacy exercise..ie. staring into each others eyes...when he comes home from work he kisses me. He contacts me though our the day with sweet texts...All of this is awesome and what I have wanted and begged for....but I am so furious....and I just do not know what to do.
He is seeing a counselor. I went to the first session. I think for sure I am going to see someone as well.
And I guess her is my question to you that have been here. Did you get over the absolute hurt and shock of it? And how do you just let go of those lost years. I feel I have been robbed of the best years of my sexual life as a woman....nothing is going to give that back to me...
I could keep writing but I think this is a good start.