Periods of no sexual desire and extreme horniness

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Paddrecon

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Hello everyone,

Before my latest relapse I had abstained from PMO for 42 days; however, starting with porn substitutes escorts ads, visiting an escort I had a relapse with PMO and to be honest I was relieved. My question is that since I have a digestive track disease I cannot eat well these days and as a result I usually have no libido. Yet at times I feel an extreme horniness and can arrange an escort to have sex with and relieve the urges. Unfortunately due to my shy temper I am not that confident around girls and I cannot find a partner; therefore I think that actually giving up PMO might render me into a strange man who totally lacks the capacity to establish fulfilling relationships with women. As a master's student with a scholarship visiting an escort is a real financial burden and it is not approved in my social circles. What kind of remedy can I seek for? Abstaining completely from masturbation and sex does not seem to be an option.
 
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Maxime

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It sounds like you want excuses to keep porn and prostitution in your life. You cannot reboot while doing this. You have to choose. Shyness is OK; you just have to take small steps and talk to people. Look at them in the eyes, etc. It will raise your confidence.
I used to be very shy, but I managed to overcome it. You can do it too.
 
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caster

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I agree with Maxime 100%.  I also used to be shy and overcame it over a few years now everyone who knows me thinks Im outgoing. 

Drop the porn, drop the prostitution.
 
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Paddrecon

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Maxime said:
It sounds like you want excuses to keep porn and prostitution in your life. You cannot reboot while doing this. You have to choose. Shyness is OK; you just have to take small steps and talk to people. Look at them in the eyes, etc. It will raise your confidence.
I used to be very shy, but I managed to overcome it. You can do it too.
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Maxime thanks for the answer but when I abstain from porn or prostitution I feel like I am in an empty void since I am ignored by girls and women. It seems like my only option for sex is prostitution. Although I am a bit desensitized due to porn, I feel the desire to have sex really strongly at times and it does not matter if I masturbate or not this desire does not subside until I have it fulfilled with a sex-worker. Actually in relationships related with work I have no problems but when it comes to private relationships I began to experience problems. I do not know maybe by problem is not directly porn itself, though it may be a contributing factor. I do not know I also sought counselling but it becomes a bit expensive and my counsellor herself suggested me to drop porn but have sex with escorts. I was a really successful guy up to this point but now sexuality seems to take it all away.
 
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Paddrecon

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caster said:
I agree with Maxime 100%.  I also used to be shy and overcame it over a few years now everyone who knows me thinks Im outgoing. 

Drop the porn, drop the prostitution.
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Well so in order to reboot you say that I should also drop prostitution. Why is this the case, I think it is not porn since it is real sex?
 
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Maxime

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It might sound and feel like real sex to you, but there's no intimacy. The escort doesn't care for you after you've paid.
You might feel like having sex with escorts is helping you, but I believe it's at the core of your issues.
If you want to live without the crutch, you'll have to let it go - otherwise you're still living with it.
It hurts? Good.
Keep in mind you'll never evolve and change if you stay in your comfort zone. Never.
 
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Paddrecon

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Maxime said:
It might sound and feel like real sex to you, but there's no intimacy. The escort doesn't care for you after you've paid.
You might feel like having sex with escorts is helping you, but I believe it's at the core of your issues.
If you want to live without the crutch, you'll have to let it go - otherwise you're still living with it.
It hurts? Good.
Keep in mind you'll never evolve and change if you stay in your comfort zone. Never.
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Got it. Do you have any suggestions to extend or penetrate my comfort zone?
 
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Paddrecon

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Maxime said:
If something scares you, go for it. If something seems too hard, give it a shot!
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Got it, my utmost fear is rejection I guess. By the way let me comment on your nice progress.
 
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Fappy

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Forget the escorts mate. Most of them have cunts like septic tanks and the last thing you need is to fork out money to treat an STD! They are in it for the money so there is no intimacy or emotional connection like there should be in sex. Given the nature of their work such a connection is impossible since they probably lack any emotion whatsoever. 
As above, the bad feelings you have are good! You get these shitty feelings because your brain is screaming at you to give in. You are making it suffer, give it what it deserves and let it suffer!
Youll feel great if you just stick to it!
 
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