Hi Jaymatcher, congrats with 21 days now! What do you mean by the novelty-factor? The fact that you're always trying to find new stuff, once you're into porn? (And checking out other girls, because of their newness?) Because your story about the bus I recognize. And then I wonder, how bad is it to just look (in a 'non pornolizing way'). I think it's fine to enjoy a beautiful woman's face as long as I'm not instantly thinking of anything dripping from it (excuse me for being explicit - but this is exactly what I thought this week - how nice it would be to be able to just enjoy the beauty of women and nothing more...).
Here goes all-in
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jaymatcher
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Good question! What I mean is that I'm not sure how 'normal' it is to constantly scan the possibility of seeing some hot chicks.. Some cleavage, skin, ass or whatever..
Maybe someday I (or we) understand how to enjoy nice girls in a good way
-jay
Maybe someday I (or we) understand how to enjoy nice girls in a good way
-jay
jaymatcher
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Hey all,
a small update to my situation.
I'm back home. I've had some excellent time with my wife.. I'm a little bit worried that I've start "rewiring" too early, but I think I still can somehow cope with it. We have discussed with my wife about the topic (I have not really been able to discuss about P, but about the pause with MO.) She is really supportive and in general we have been extremely close for the last days. I've also had have some of the best sex in my life with her. Still I'm at the same time a bit worried that shall I ever be able to reach my goal (which is to be able to reach the big O) with her without M playing any role in the process...
Anyways it is 26 days today and I'm pretty proud of myself! Today had a real chance (for a long time) to PMO but didn't have really big challenges to prevent it. So at least the urges are apparently going away.
I'm not sure if we should have a pause in the real sex as well... on the other hand I just want to take it easily and roll-on with the situation and not really force it into any direction. Somewhere deep inside I know that before 90 days is over I will reach my goal which I had stopped to dream about for ages ago!
So everything is going nicely here, enjoying life (and my wife) and the urges are somewhere really distant.
Take care everyone and keep focused!
-jay
a small update to my situation.
I'm back home. I've had some excellent time with my wife.. I'm a little bit worried that I've start "rewiring" too early, but I think I still can somehow cope with it. We have discussed with my wife about the topic (I have not really been able to discuss about P, but about the pause with MO.) She is really supportive and in general we have been extremely close for the last days. I've also had have some of the best sex in my life with her. Still I'm at the same time a bit worried that shall I ever be able to reach my goal (which is to be able to reach the big O) with her without M playing any role in the process...
Anyways it is 26 days today and I'm pretty proud of myself! Today had a real chance (for a long time) to PMO but didn't have really big challenges to prevent it. So at least the urges are apparently going away.
I'm not sure if we should have a pause in the real sex as well... on the other hand I just want to take it easily and roll-on with the situation and not really force it into any direction. Somewhere deep inside I know that before 90 days is over I will reach my goal which I had stopped to dream about for ages ago!
So everything is going nicely here, enjoying life (and my wife) and the urges are somewhere really distant.
Take care everyone and keep focused!
-jay
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Bryan
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Glad to hear it, Jay.