I'm sick of the hardmode

[grayfoxxx]

Anyone recovered in soft mode?

I'm almost 5 months trying with hardmode and it destroys my mood, I'm passing the worst days of my life. My social skills suck, I recently had a panic attack (never had one before), it gives me PE and yesterday I felt a slight but unconfortable burning sensation on the tip of my penis and in the prostate area (I think it's due to not ejaculating for long periods of time). It's enough, I can't stand this anymore.

Today I Oed and I feel better. Surely it slows my reboot, but at least I don't feel like a sh*t.

 

[qrayzHD]

Are you rewiring to real partners?

 

[Gary Dent]

No success can be gotten in soft mode. PM me and I can give you some specific tools to help you.

 

[Maxime]

Gary Dent, I think you shouldn't tell people stuff you don't know for sure about.
I've been having sex at least once every week for the last three months and my recovery has been quick and steady.
I think it depends on everyone. So, just because you think it hinders your progress doesn't mean it will be bad for everybody.

I think some people on here try a bit too hard to force their beliefs on others.
I'm happy I didn't listen to everyone saying orgasm and sex is definitely bad for a reboot. Because it is certainly not. Again, everyone is different.

 

[Gary Dent]

Porn Addiction is not just about porn, its about dopamine, porn is the button we push to get dopamine. Sex releases huge amounts of dopamine flooding our already dopamine soaked brains with more. I am sure that this will be slowing doing progress, you may still be able to make good progress since real sex is different to endless novelty of porn and when you have real sex parts of the brain related to intimacy/connection etc etc light up, no question about that but it would probably be impeding you.

That being said, I was a bit strong in saying "No success", I admit that was a mistake.

 

[Maxime]

No, you weren't a bit strong, you were wrong.
You can't prove that orgasms have a negative effect on reboots. It's like people giving up listening to music and whatnot while they reboot.
Or even worst: people claiming that sex without orgasm (not talking about karezza) is better than orgasm, as if sex without orgasm was devoid of dopamine.
If you'd rather not have sex during your reboot, fine, but don't force it on others with empty "facts".

 

[grayfoxxx]

Are you rewiring to real partners?

No, I don't.  Opportunities for it don't happen and I would not be ready, anyway

PM me and I can give you some specific tools to help you.

Thanks, but why via PM? Other people could find those helpful

 

[Maxime]

So, you say you're not ready to have sex with a partner? Then you want to MO, I suppose?
You see, that's one thing I try to avoid, though, because it's reminiscent of what I did when I was watching porn.  I've read of people who do it once in a while and it helps them, though.

 

[mtaha2015]

yeah but MAX, if someone is ugly unlucky guy.
For example take me,
I can't do sex with any women, because I know, no women would accept me.
so what can I do ?
I have to masturbate.
so masturbation is better than porn, especially for those who don't have a outlet.

 

[Maxime]

I know, it's just that he said he's tired of "hard mode". So if he wants to stop hard mode, and he's not ready for a woman, then it's MO. Wanted to make sure that's what he had in mind.

 

[grayfoxxx]

Yes, I was thinking to MO a little bit more frequently, maybe every 7-10 days.
But now I don't know, I will take a decision on the way.

 

[DayByDay]

Hey man,

Sorry to hear about the difficulty you have with hard mode. Honestly Id be inclined to steer away from MO alltogether. I dont think this because it might slow down your reboot but rather because, IMO, it can lead to more porn usage (in the long term).

In my mind the key to having a healthy/satisfying sex life is to find a partner and do it with them as opposed to using your hand. I believe that eventually you might fall back into PMOing if you kept MOing. Saying you will only MO once every 10 days is admirable but do you think you can keep to it ? I mean what will happen when you cant MO just using your touch ? Or when thinking of past girls isn't enough.

 

[Rebootr]

Everyone is different.... I'm still having sex and enjoying it. Just taking it a week at a time and putting no pressure on. Personally, masturbation etc is enjoyable and I won't stop that but I'm dropping porn (or at least private use of porn - may use with wife for inspiration in future.) I'm currently not jerking off at all as saving for when I'm with my wife but if I got hard and fancied it k would. Its natural to to get horny and do something
About it so I don't want to fight all urges! Baby steps!