Is Porn Addiction A Symptom Or Cause of Issues? MUST READ

Crystal

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sammy101 said:
I started masturbating at d age of 13 and looking at erotic magazines at 13... And i started using porn at 15..I really had nothing I was running away from no pain...but I realised my reason for seeking porn was simple (I lust for women so much and when I don't end up getting one I resort to porn) to a point where I didn't deem it necessary to front girls anymore when I could get d pleasure I sort by watching porn and fapping to it...this went on for years and I became addicted because of the novelty of porn.. U know d saying ( 1 is never enough and 12 is not too much) I am currently 21 years old and what I have come to realise is that after I finish fapping to porn all those strong urges I felt before that just vanishes...meaning am not really craving porn and its naked women shit coz literally I get turned on just seeing beautiful ladies pass by me...but I was addicted to the dopamine release my brain gives me...because I found out I don't get turned on watching d same porn over and over ...so I search for an interesting scene for a better dopamine release...all these have affected me..coz I find it hard nw to remain erect with my girlfriend...because I lack focus of what is at hand...and because my brain is used to being fed with numerous position of girls being smacked...so I guess d best approach to help myself and those willing to embark on d journey is to stop lusting after women..not like for ever though coz I can't see myself not shagging again...but @least for now....PEACE...

Welcome to Reboot Nation Sammy, thanks for sharing.
 
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Sab

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Hello everyone! Its a bit weird for me but I want openly to address my Problem. I have nightmares and it feels like I'm going to die soon as I cannot sleep from having wet dream.I don't know what to so can somebody help me?
 

workingonit

Active Member
Hi Sab,

It appears you are just in overdrive.  It is good that you spoke of your fears.  Is there anything you can do when you wake from your dreams to write them down?  Wet dreams are very normal and nearly all men have them.  Not to worry.  Do you exercise at all?
 

Big H

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Porn is like crack. Once you watch you can't stop. It pisses me off when people say there's nothing wrong with porn and the only problem is you which may be partially right but obviously it's easier to quit soft-core porn than hardcore.
 
Gabe Deem said:
BOTH groups need to understand that staying away from porn does not mean you will miss out on pleasure, It means you may finally experience it to the fullest.

I think this quote is going to help me a lot.
 

workingonit

Active Member
Hello Big H, Hope your recovery is going well.  I disagree that Pornography is like crack but only because after joining Reboot Nation and studying addiction more I came across this link attached.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PY9DcIMGxMs

Everything you think you know about addiction is wrong. Johanh Hari.

Heroine was widely used during the vietnam war.  There was great concern that there would be a nationwide epidemic when the vets returned home but the greater majority just blended back into society.

The classic addiction study was putting one rat in a cage.  In one bottle there was water and cocaine, in the other bottle was just water.  The rat finished the cocaine off and left the one that was just water.  This was seen as the test to determine is something was addictive or not.  Recently the study was done again but differently.   

In the cage was placed numerous rats, runs, food, toys, games.    The water bottle and water/cocaine bottles were used again but the rats barely touched the cocaine.  This was seen to be because they were social and able to occupy themselves with eating, playing, having sex excetera.

I hope you enjoy the first documentary and the second one just goes deeper.

Cheers!
 

Gabe Deem

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After watching the "Everything you think you know about addiction is wrong" video, read this. There are a lot of problems with the statements made in it.

In short, not all addicts lack connection.

https://yourbrainonporn.com/commentary-everything-we-think-we-know-about-addiction-wrong-nutshell
 
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Mroctupus

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I agree with Daniel Amen and the book about brain that addictions are mostly the symptom and until you deal with the cause addictions only change form from one thing to another
 

Gabe Deem

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Good to see well known sexual addiction therapist and author/speaker Rob Weiss acknowledge "opportunity addiction" as discussed above: https://blogs.psychcentral.com/sex/2018/12/digital-age-conditioned-porn-addiction-a-new-version-of-an-old-problem/
 

Aznom99

New Member
right, i think pornography is not a drug. But with modern technology Enabling anyone to easily access these media Whether it is a PC, notebook, smart mobile that connects to the internet anywhere, including social media that makes it easier to access and forward But what to do, we have to stop interested in pornography. When it comes to see through the eyes often.
 

Hgdo78

Member
I have read all the comments and stories, and like most I started looking at playboy, for the younger crowd here, playboy was and is a book that has naked women on it and some other stuff that no one ever reads it.  Now the magazines was given to me and my brother by my uncle and my parents were okay with it.  Any way it was the beginning of my nightmares.  I was everyday running home to ?take a shower? and for years that was my life.  I have great parents, girlfriends all the time but I was always supper horny.  Lost my virginity at 19 and even than it got worse, I would have Alex with my girl than go home and masturbate again.  It did not matter if I had sex, just the thought of a women would make me want to do it.

Porn was easy at my house because my folks did not really care, anyway I got married I figure it would stop, no it did not.  Some times I would go days and I did not care but than something would trigger it maybe looking at a sexy women other than my wife, or a picture of a women but in a thong, which later became an obsession of my, thongs that is, as soon as I see just a peak of the thong I get horny and run home and masturbate.  Well that went on for years also going to church made things harder because I felt guilty for doing it and I knew it is wrong In God eyes that I was ashamed, than I can go a couple of days some times a week or two than back at it again. 

now, my wife said is too much I want you out until you get control of why you need doing it.  We blame porn but really we need to look at why do we, my reason was for pleasure of imagination of a sexy women in a thong.

I had to move out this Sunday past and I have not looked or thought or had any urges to look at it, because the pain that has brought to my life, well it?s not worth looking at porn for a few minutes of pleasure or high feelings. So I will keep posting my progress here, started to take counselling to help me work it out. Talk later God Bless
 

Aussie_85

Active Member
Gabe Deem said:
You do not have to be predisposed to become addicted. You just have to chronically over-consume porn, which can lead to brain changes.

However, both groups of guys, the pleasure seekers and the pain avoiders, need to get out and enjoy life. So the message still stands, Get busy doing other healthy things.

Simply put, porn addiction recovery is more about "why you can't stop", than it is "why you are addicted". You cannot become addicted to something without chronically over-consuming it.

Some will have issues to acknowledge and take care of, which have led them to use porn. Others will simply need to stop watching it and replace it. BOTH groups need to fill the void that giving up porn leaves in their schedule and mind with something healthy and/or productive. BOTH groups need to learn how porn re-wires and numbs the brain. BOTH groups need to understand that staying away from porn does not mean you will miss out on pleasure, It means you may finally experience it to the fullest.

Great post Gabe,

Personally i had very few issues before porn use. But as the years rolled on and i started getting weird, worsening symptoms like social anxiety ( massively life impacting ) and depression, anhedonia..i was scared and confused so i'd use even more porn to combat the negative effects - vicious cycle. Iv'e never had PIED though, my erections have certainly gotten weaker but I've never not been able to have sex...this coming from me who would edge for 7+ hours per day to extreme material, basically any and everything besides BDSM or illegal shit... I'd finish and be like man, why the hell did i just masturbate over that? which over time is extremely confusing and damaging.

I'll be supporting you on patreon when i get a chance to sign up - bit busy with a newborn at the moment!  ;D i cannot describe in words the hope people like you have given me. seriously bro you deserve some kind of award, so does garry,noah,mark and all the other people spreading the word and helping change/ save lives.  8)
 

surajit

New Member
Since i have stopped masturbating ,i have been feeling great...But i am not able to get out of watching porn...Just today i couldn't help myself watching it..so i joined RN to help myself getting out of this shit which is ruining my life...Frequency of watching have decreased but still i need to stop watching and i will and that too from now onwards.......
 
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