So, my girlfriend and I have started having sex. This is something that we took our time with a lot (at least in my experience) since she was a virgin and I was doing my reboot and so there wasn't much reason to get right into it.
Although my porn-induced erectile dysfunction (PIED) has become a lot better since I first discovered it (I can get rock hard even in the morning while fooling around with my girl) it seems like as soon as she decides she wants to have sex and I pull the condom out, my dick becomes flaccid within seconds. It's like a turtle seeing an approaching predator.
Even if I can stay hard long enough to put it on, it definitely can't stay hard enough for anything to go in. (like I said before, my gf is a virgin)
I'm getting so so so frustrated. I feel like such a disappointment to my girlfriend. She is just starting to get over her apprehension of having sex and I feel like I am ruining it for her.
I don't remember ever having any luck with condoms actually, except for maybe when I myself was also a virgin and had only been masturbating for a few years.
So is it the condoms? Is it the PIED? Is it performance anxiety? Am I flatlining?
I feel so emotionally fucked up over it. I don't need to have sex, but there is so much lead up to it when I'm with my girlfriend that it's just something we both really want to do. But then my dick decides it doesn't like condoms. Will it ever pass? I feel so helpless. I don't want to make her go on the pill or anything. And even if she did I think she's too cautious to go without a condom anyway.
On top of the emotional let down, I'm going broke going through condoms because basically I try to stick it in, it doesn't go in, I go soft, the condom is useless, we keep fooling around, I get hard again, new condom, and so on.
I'm guessing the answer you're going to tell me is that I should just stop trying to have sex for a while. But what am I supposed to make of this? I haven't felt particular up or down emotionally since starting the reboot. This is the first time after almost 3 months where I actually felt super fucking upset with myself. I don't know what to think and now whenever there is a chance of us having sex I get this weird apprehension and anxiety.
Thanks for any advice.
Although my porn-induced erectile dysfunction (PIED) has become a lot better since I first discovered it (I can get rock hard even in the morning while fooling around with my girl) it seems like as soon as she decides she wants to have sex and I pull the condom out, my dick becomes flaccid within seconds. It's like a turtle seeing an approaching predator.
Even if I can stay hard long enough to put it on, it definitely can't stay hard enough for anything to go in. (like I said before, my gf is a virgin)
I'm getting so so so frustrated. I feel like such a disappointment to my girlfriend. She is just starting to get over her apprehension of having sex and I feel like I am ruining it for her.
I don't remember ever having any luck with condoms actually, except for maybe when I myself was also a virgin and had only been masturbating for a few years.
So is it the condoms? Is it the PIED? Is it performance anxiety? Am I flatlining?
I feel so emotionally fucked up over it. I don't need to have sex, but there is so much lead up to it when I'm with my girlfriend that it's just something we both really want to do. But then my dick decides it doesn't like condoms. Will it ever pass? I feel so helpless. I don't want to make her go on the pill or anything. And even if she did I think she's too cautious to go without a condom anyway.
On top of the emotional let down, I'm going broke going through condoms because basically I try to stick it in, it doesn't go in, I go soft, the condom is useless, we keep fooling around, I get hard again, new condom, and so on.
I'm guessing the answer you're going to tell me is that I should just stop trying to have sex for a while. But what am I supposed to make of this? I haven't felt particular up or down emotionally since starting the reboot. This is the first time after almost 3 months where I actually felt super fucking upset with myself. I don't know what to think and now whenever there is a chance of us having sex I get this weird apprehension and anxiety.
Thanks for any advice.