For years I've bad this question in my mind:
Is it normal that a man would have to watch porn throughout (during) the entire course of a making love to his wife in order to ejeculate?
My husband had excuses like "sexual attaction" dont last and couples become family/friends which actually deepens the relationship; you're too easy to get wet and reach orgasm after which I cant feel a thing; I feel unconfortable with condoms (but he's the same after I switched to pills); mastubation is healthy and porn can spice up sex...
Nowadays we have sex less than once a month and he cannot get through it without watching porn at the same time...
But otherwise he's a loving husband and I knew about his porn collection and didnt think too much about it...we talk about pretty girls on the street, not a problem, he's just a man and I'm a good wife who respect my husband's hobbies and imperfections....
Until a few days ago when I suggested we should try to have more sex...
And he said, it doesnt work like that it depends on whether he gets visual stimulate from online...or whether he sees a sexy girl on the street...
I suddenly realised all this time he was not having sex with me, but someone else, a fantasy, visual stimulous. What am I to him?
I felt insulted and even more insulted that he didnt realise that it would hurt me.
I'm sexy, confident and intellegent young woman with a good career. I dont deserve to be treated like this.
This is how I ended up here, reading, crying, feeling betrayed.
But what should I do? How can I save this relationship? How can I make him realise?
Is it normal that a man would have to watch porn throughout (during) the entire course of a making love to his wife in order to ejeculate?
My husband had excuses like "sexual attaction" dont last and couples become family/friends which actually deepens the relationship; you're too easy to get wet and reach orgasm after which I cant feel a thing; I feel unconfortable with condoms (but he's the same after I switched to pills); mastubation is healthy and porn can spice up sex...
Nowadays we have sex less than once a month and he cannot get through it without watching porn at the same time...
But otherwise he's a loving husband and I knew about his porn collection and didnt think too much about it...we talk about pretty girls on the street, not a problem, he's just a man and I'm a good wife who respect my husband's hobbies and imperfections....
Until a few days ago when I suggested we should try to have more sex...
And he said, it doesnt work like that it depends on whether he gets visual stimulate from online...or whether he sees a sexy girl on the street...
I suddenly realised all this time he was not having sex with me, but someone else, a fantasy, visual stimulous. What am I to him?
I felt insulted and even more insulted that he didnt realise that it would hurt me.
I'm sexy, confident and intellegent young woman with a good career. I dont deserve to be treated like this.
This is how I ended up here, reading, crying, feeling betrayed.
But what should I do? How can I save this relationship? How can I make him realise?