I dont know if its porn.. Help me

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Calvin klein

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Hii guys!! I am calvin.. I wanna tell you guys my story. Its different from rest so got me confused..
Ok i am 22years old. More then porn i am addicted to sex stories.. Dont know if its the same. I read a lot of sex stories (blackmailed humiliating stories mostly). I watch porn sometimes(same). But i dont know if i am addicted to those cause if i ejaculate i dnt have problem with them.. I can go on without them with frequent masterbasion thinking about them ofcourse. I have a long distance relationship. Me and my girl are quite happy and have great sex life. But last time i went for vaccation we tried 3 times and we had sex once and 2 times i couldnt get any erection. Its really embarrasing you know.. I think its getting me slowely.. But is it porn addiction or need to ejaculate.. I tried nofab several time and failed.. Recently i was going quite good but i have my finals really soon and its impossible to study when you are on nofap.. So i did it again.. I am going with an eja per day.. Help me understand and help me guys
 
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William

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Dude, sex stories are what the initiated call porn substitutes.  Just another way to get a dopamine high.  Go to the home page of this site, click on the video titled "The Great Porn Experiment" and read about your true problem, dopamine abuse. 
 
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Calvin klein

Member
Thanx a lot william..
Ive got 2 more questions
1. In the pied test when you use your hand to get erection do you think about any sexy stuff or not?
2. Ive got exams this month and next which is really important.. And there is no chance i can study with withdrawl.. So do i continue with porn or just fab no porn or try nofab no porn.. Thanx a lot
 
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William

Guest
Hi Calvin, first, did you watch the vid, and if so, what are your thoughts?  The thing about quitting the addiction is it is a lot like homework.  There are some not very exciting hours to be put in understanding the problem.  To beat your enemy you must study and understand the enemy, which is porn induced dopamine addiction.

As for the hand test...I don't think it applies to you; if I understood your first post you have a great sex life.  But I think the point of the test is that if you have PIED you probably won't reach O unless you are watching porn or thinking of it.   

As for your tests and withdrawals.  Everyone here who quit went through withdrawals and we did not take a vacation from life to do it.  Withdrawals are very unpleasant, but not paralyzing.  You can get through your tests while withdrawing.  In fact, I actually think you might do better because part of the quitting process is filling our time with something other than PMO, so you could use the time to study. 
 
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Calvin klein

Member
Cheers dude.. That video is really informative.. Now i have a clear understanding of the stuffs.. I went through other videos too.. And also the life changing video of (shit i forgot the name greg or smth)
Was really inspirational..
Ok 1 more question.. As the video says there are other dopamin accumulating addictions like alcohol, gambling, video games etc.. Does rebooting and rewiring involve these too? I belive i have video gaming addiction.. Thanx a lot
 
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Paddrecon

Active Member
Hi Calvin,

I have been abstaining from PMO and I can say that you experience some withdrawal symptoms while quitting an addiction. In my case I am sort of depressive, I suffer from fatigue, I do not have the will power to go out and my mood swings constantly. FYI I began watching porn regularly at the age of 14.

I think that your erection problem is PIED as porn desensitizes your penis and you cannot get aroused easily.  For the PIED test I think fantasizing about real life situations and even hypothetical(Non PORN) situations is okay.
 
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