Masturbation as part of sex

[fgpied]

so I got to my 12 days, no PMO. Saw my gf & had awesome sex, her on top which made me O so hard, something which has rarely been a possibility before as I normally need to be in charge of the motion/speed etc to O.

Next time, few days later, she wanted me to finish over her. I felt like I could o in her but I stroked over her. Then immediately wondered if that counts as M? Please advise here guys. Next morning same thing but she finished me off over herself & I wonder is thisdifferent? Am happy to reset but wasn't sure if this counts or not as part of MO?

Next time I struggled to stay fully hard, 80-90% and delayed ejaculation & wasn't inside her but M over her.  Next day a BJ and same thing, 80-90% & delayed O (even s pause as felt I wasn't fully refuelled) but felt very strong when I eventually did.

Won't see her now for 3/4 days & wondering if you guys had any advice for me. It really affected my mood & confidence last few days. First few days together we're awesome & now I feel down in dumps. I wonder is it the novelty wearing off after 2/3 times together after time away?

 

[noitan]

fgpied, you really shouldn't obssess about that.

The reboot is something we are all doing that envolves quitting from porn, not quitting from sexual experiences. If you are having a good time with your girl, cut you some slack, whether you orgasm from masturbation or intercourse, or even oral sex. The important thing is to reboot from porn.

Sure there are cases that sex is a trigger that leads you to a relapse, and sure are theories that say not cutting all sexual activity can make your recovery slower, but if you feel fine and are having a good time with your girl, why punish yourself?

This process is about mental health, and loving yourself. Relax!

 

[fgpied]

Thankyou Noitan, much appreciated

I guess maybe there is some anxiety built in too once we've been around each other for a few days again.

I've always even as a teen/early 20s had a longgggg refractory period, 12-24 hours minimum too so add all the factors together and it isn't helpful

I guess I just need to focus on the 90 days, once i get that far and see what the impact is as if I am as excitable by days and a week in as I am after first meet up. She's away until Thurs so gives me 4 days to assess that impact.

I've been fine off the charrooms, chaturbate etc but thing my brain needs to tale the time time to adjust to lack of novelty and that includes the novelty of sex with my gf wearing off once we've been back together a week or so

Cheers again for the helpful words