I've enjoyed inappropriate sexual stimulation as far back as I can remember. When i was 4 or 5 I had a very vivid recurring dream in which I became aroused. I had absolutely no idea what was going on but I liked it! Very quickly I started noticing other things that made me aroused and have now had about 35 years of practice finding material to arouse myself. I come from a conservative, religious family, whose beliefs I share. I've known since I was probably 8 or so that seeking arousal is wrong, but I've never managed to kick the habit.
I will have been married for 17 years this September and I have four kids and a great wife. I feel very blessed to have had such a "normal" life despite my addiction, but I'm becoming more and more aware of the pain I cause to those that I love.
I've worked with several different counselors, ecclesiastical leaders and support groups, but I've never felt like any of them really related to me or understood my addiction. So often I felt like they were suggesting I could overcome my addiction if I just stopped. I had one ecclesiastical leader who is a dear friend ask me if I like porn. He was not trained to help people with addiction specifically, but was a spiritual counselor. This question, though, infuriated me and made it clear to me that I needed help he couldn't give me. My wife and I worked with a counselor who specializes in addiction, and I hoped to get a deeper understanding of my addiction from him, but too often I felt like he was saying the same old thing - just stop looking at porn.
Finding yourbrainonporn.com was eye-opening for me. I've only watched one (very long) video, but what I've read and seen there has given me a lot more understanding and hope than all the counseling. I'm thrilled to see an online journal for tracking my progress. I was surprised at how difficult it was to search for something like this. I'm a software engineer by trade, so I seriously considered creating one. Hopefully this journal will make all my dreams come true.
I appreciate the community here and look forward to sharing successes with you all.
I will have been married for 17 years this September and I have four kids and a great wife. I feel very blessed to have had such a "normal" life despite my addiction, but I'm becoming more and more aware of the pain I cause to those that I love.
I've worked with several different counselors, ecclesiastical leaders and support groups, but I've never felt like any of them really related to me or understood my addiction. So often I felt like they were suggesting I could overcome my addiction if I just stopped. I had one ecclesiastical leader who is a dear friend ask me if I like porn. He was not trained to help people with addiction specifically, but was a spiritual counselor. This question, though, infuriated me and made it clear to me that I needed help he couldn't give me. My wife and I worked with a counselor who specializes in addiction, and I hoped to get a deeper understanding of my addiction from him, but too often I felt like he was saying the same old thing - just stop looking at porn.
Finding yourbrainonporn.com was eye-opening for me. I've only watched one (very long) video, but what I've read and seen there has given me a lot more understanding and hope than all the counseling. I'm thrilled to see an online journal for tracking my progress. I was surprised at how difficult it was to search for something like this. I'm a software engineer by trade, so I seriously considered creating one. Hopefully this journal will make all my dreams come true.
I appreciate the community here and look forward to sharing successes with you all.