So, since my husband and I have started trying to deal with this porn problem, I swore I wouldn't try to check up on him because I don't want to feel like his mommy. He was so freaked out by ED he swears he's done, but maintains he's not addicted because he never used it every day (for 9 years!!). I have had an irregular schedule for the last couple weeks, working at home some, in the office some, so he never knew when I might come home or not. So don't think he's cheated. He seems to be in classic flatline too. Now I'm going to be out of town all day for a meeting soon and he will have the whole day to himself and there's no chance I will come back unexpectedly. I'm starting to feel anxious and like I want to find a way to check on the computer use. Actually thinking I might take the computer to a shop and ask if they can find the deleted history, with the excuse I'm worried about my child. What are others' thoughts on this?? What have you done?