Drug addicts have alternative drugs to calm their cravings, what about porn?

[PhoenixRevival]

Drug addicts have alternative drugs to calm their cravings, what alternatives can we do to calm our cravings for porn?
The forum is of great help. But really, we have nothing but willpower to support us na?

 

[CrazyGopher]

Yeah, it's kinda funny, if you ever go to an AA meeting there's usually coffee and everyone is smoking too.

But, there are helpful techniques to calm cravings! One solution that works for me is to have an activity that I automatically do whenever I feel a craving. For me, that's to get up, go into my bedroom (no Internet in there) and read a book for at least 5 minutes.

Sounds simple, but it works great if you can remember to do it.

 

[arthur]

At the risk of stating the obvious, but what about? sex with a spouse (if you have one)? Or even MO (no P!), maybe together with your partner? I know for some it increases the risk of a relapse, but I have found it very helpful. Calms the cravings and replaces the P images in my head with something more healthy, at least for a while.

 

[bzarfas]

Yeah, it's kinda funny, if you ever go to an AA meeting there's usually coffee and everyone is smoking too.

But, there are helpful techniques to calm cravings! One solution that works for me is to have an activity that I automatically do whenever I feel a craving. For me, that's to get up, go into my bedroom (no Internet in there) and read a book for at least 5 minutes.

Sounds simple, but it works great if you can remember to do it.

I have started eating when I feel an urge
that's not good, but now I drink a coke zero when I get an urge to eat or fap.
ok I don't really understand PMO(porn masterbation, orgasm)  what if I just take away the porn, wouldnt that solve the problem?
I thought the problem was porn, not masterbation, not orgasms??

 

[Excalibur]

Consider to go to a drug addiction program instead of watching P. Remember that one rule is to spend the time of addiction in healthy habits. On that programs you won't have permission to watch any P at all. Good luck!

 

[harpoon]

At the beginning of my reboot I was drinking ridiculous amounts of coffee and eating any amount of sugary crap, but now I get a buzz from listening to music and playing my guitar.

The only thing that gives me a buzz close to that porn induced  neuro chemical high is to run 10km plus.

 

[laalee]

Yes wish there were, i have been drinking Alcohol nearly every night, they say swap the bitch for the with hate this shit. need to whinge can not even find  partner for real sex not sure if a prostitute can be substituted wht are your thoughts? thx people

 

[Excalibur]

Yes wish there were, i have been drinking Alcohol nearly every night, they say swap the bitch for the with hate this shit. need to whinge can not even find  partner for real sex not sure if a prostitute can be substituted wht are your thoughts? thx people

No way dude! Take you away from alcohol, prostitutes and sex. This will be drive you thru directly to porn very quickly. You can not replace porn for other unhealthy habits. That is my opinion.

 

[laalee]

So what does a single gay man for 6 years do to have real sex away from sex sites anonymous sex pmo?  Tried dating no luck

 

[PE30]

Married, straight man here (so this won't work for everyone).

I don't think there's a direct alternative to PMO. It's more about cultivating a healthy attitude towards life. For me, the following things have helped:
- working on my sex life with my wife (fortunately for me, any ED issues were soon out of the way and we have good sex that we both enjoy maybe twice a week);
- playing games on my phone instead of using chat rooms (such as Scrabble);
- setting goals in terms of my work, housework and so on;
- my faith: praying, reading the Bible and so on.

The absolute game-changer has been to have a friend in real life (the pastor of my church) who knows about my addiction and who I can Facebook message when I'm feeling tempted. I had a really tough first 10-14 days and so I needed to message him regularly. I'm on a more even keel now.

 

[PE30]

I'd also say that boundaries will vary from person to person. For me:

- MO without porn was a no-no (as I'd just end up fantasising about people other than my wife);
- I never even entertained the idea of prostitutes (just not my thing plus way too risky in terms of STIs, plus it's infidelity isn't it - in a way, worse than chat rooms or porn).