Gambit123 said:Joejoe congrats! You are an inspiration and im so happy for you!
Out of curiosity, when did you start having sex and oing w your partner? How many os did you have w your partner during the reboot?
Im older than you , 32, but had about 10 yrs pmo under my belt so i am a longer rebooter too. Im almost 9 months hardmode inand have made a lot of progress both mentally and erection wise but im not 100 percent yet. Im likely going to start having sex soon ( fairly confident ill be successful although im not fully cured yet). Any advice?
Hi Gambit123,
Congrats on making it this far! You are doing awesome man. My advice is:
Rewire! Rewire! Rewire! You are ready for it buddy. As Gabe did though, If you choose to O, I recommend no more than 1 or 2 every 2 weeks or so just for the first month or two, just so you don't over do it and send yourself back into a flatline which I did several times. Soon you will know where the threshold is and can adjust it in time. Take it easy and you'll be firing on all cylinders in no time.
Note: O's gave me a neurological hangover afterwards for a while ( light headed, brain foggy, anxiety) perhaps was too soon for me or was just my body adjusting. but eventually that disappeared as well.
You are in a good place and in my honest opinion, I believe rewiring is the final step for you as you have done a great reboot and given your tackle a lot of time to rest and recover. Now it's time to show him the way home Obviously time does wonders too. Month 9-12 months, I noticed a lot of positive and exciting changes in my mind and body......just never get too over confident because you eventually get burned if you play with fire like i did once or twice. Stay on the no PMO path at all costs! Sounds like I don't need to tell you though, you've killed it buddy.
To answer your other question: I O'd probably 3 or so times a week with partner for the first month or so???.completely forced by the way ( I don't really recommend it and still don't know khow how I did it either haha) and it made me feel shit afterwards mentally and withdrawal wise...all to please the girl hey I do believe that was crazy for a rebooter like me and may have prolonged the healing time but at least I did some solid rewiring for the real deal early on. Probably 3-6 month mark, maybe once a week (sometimes more, sometimes less) and then 6-12 month, once a week or once every two, sometimes three weeks ( honeymoon period is over haha but worked well for me with my reboot) in between that all, I would often do 3-4 week reboots whenever I could, this always helped immensely as well. My journey was a little unorthodox compared to a lot of other rebooters out there as I was forcing O's early on at first ( with partner only) and always rewiring. I believe the O's sometimes set me back and stalled me but saying that, the rewiring component sped things up as well in a different way i suspect.
In a perfect world, my advice would be rewire ASAP with a loving Partner without O for a period of time. Then slowly introduce O's when you body feels ready with your partner. O's sometimes can kick you out of flatline ( if it's been while) as well I found but sometimes it will set you back if too soon ( a bit of Russian roulette hey haha). The perfect way isn't always realistic though and just one way of doing it, so a long as you take some time out from O, leave PMO behind forever and all behavior associated with it, Rewire, Rewire, Rewire! (That includes socializing with people and flirting) You will reverse the brain changes in time. If it's not real, then no DEAL! as the good man Gabe says!
Well done though buddy, you are killing it. You should feel so proud of what you have achieved and know you are now on the final hurdle. So happy for you man. Keep going a let me know how you go. Here to help and share my experiences where I can. Just my thoughts and experience though man. I wish all the best for you my friend.