Hablablos said:
Thanks for your reply zaraki,
Well, right now I don't feel much difference, but I know I have to persist for a time. This week wasn't very good, because even through I was meditating and having cold showers, I was still looking for stories.
Yep, this is my case as well. I have a girlfriend for 2,5 years, but I am still looking up for erotic content. I am trying to find a way how to deal with my porn problem, because it bothers me emotionally and sexually as well.
Don't be so hard on yourself! Just looking at stories is in my opinion much much better than porn movies in HD. I wish I can do that. If you would like to try out, try to limit yourself getting aroused. You could try to find out why the mind wanders in the first place by observing your thoughts and emotions through meditation.
My mind wanders whenever I have stress, do something I don't want to or feel bad and I want to feel happy again.
''Yep, this is my case as well. I have a girlfriend for 2,5 years, but I am still looking up for erotic content. I am trying to find a way how to deal with my porn problem, because it bothers me emotionally and sexually as well.''
Would you like to try out the no arousel methode or the 2 second rule? Whenever a sexual thought pops up in our mind, I for myself have only 2 second to stop it from getting my body aroused. Thoughts happens but the body needs some time to get aroused. When thoughts are stopped on time, the body cannot get aroused I believe according to my experience. I found out for myself I have to react fast. It is like wearing a mask to protect me from corona virus. Once the virus is in me, I cannot get it out anymore. I can only fight the arousel feelings with cold showers or push ups but eventually a relapse is inevitable. It will happen to me in a couple of hours or days, right away or even in my dreams. So I'd say the corona virus must be stopped before entering the body just like sexual thoughts activating the body feelings.
Another thing I am working on is planning my day. If I plan my day and know there is work to do, I know I have no time to waste.
Also don't beat yourself up! We are humans and sex is part of being human.
