How do YOU define Edging?

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ajcoals

Active Member
Hey guys,

So had a moment of weakness today.  So I have my phone on lock-down, no web access. I found a way to the web through an app  today on my phone.  Watched a couple of sexual youtube videos for a bit and wanted to M.  Ultimately, I fled the situation, deleted the app, didn't M and later tonight will likely have sex with my wife.

I'm trying to really break habits and disrupt patterns of thought in my reboot. 

Should I consider this a relapse? I was really pissed I even started to edge, but was really grateful I fled the situation and didn't PMO at all.

Thoughts?
 
Will Stalwart

Will Stalwart

Active Member
Personally I would say it depends on the extent of your browsing. I think if you watch P, but quickly realize what you are doing and shut it down, this is in fact a victory. Watching P for extended periods, however, is slightly more ambiguous. And watching P while you M but then don't O, well I'd say that's a definite reset.

From what you say I don't think this is a full relapse, but I wouldn't say it was clear cut. Ultimately the decision is down to you. Do you think what you did deserves a reset? Has this broke your streak? It sounds like you feel guilty, but is this enough for a reset? I don't think so.
 
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ReachPotential

Member
It depends on what your goals are.

For me, any seeking out of sexual material is a relapse. It is such a slippery slope that I try not to allow leeway regarding it at this stage. There have been times where I let more egregious actions than you described slide, but those streaks ended in relapse... it is all a mental game and honesty is the most important trait. If I don't reset after doing something "small" - peeking at P, touching myself through my clothing, etc. - I begin to see that as OK - "you did it once and you still have your streak... you can continue doing this and you'll be OK." Next thing I know, I've relapsed.

In your case, it wasn't P and you didn't M. This isn't necessarily grounds for a reset, but please be careful buddy.
 
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ajcoals

Active Member
Thank you guys for the feedback.  I've decided not to restart the clock but am very conscientious that this is a slippery slope. 

Glad to have the insight fellas!
 
Dareius

Dareius

Member
Hey there,
for me just watching any pornrelated material evokes such hard cravings in me (really high dopamine output/reinforcing the old paths) that I ultimately end up PMOing to my pornrelated fetishes, especially when I have alot of stress/sadness/anger. If I have a really good day with lots of activities to distract my mind, I can just barely handle it.
But in the end for me, even if i did not end up PMOing, its a relapse, since I reinforced the old brainpaths, not with such a big dopamine shot that one gets on orgasm, but still - novelty...

Cheers, stay strong ppl!
 
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