Camouflage
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I recently started dating a girl. I have a history of severe DE and and occasional ED. But during my 80 days hard mode reboot I have seen great progress, and I was able to perform adequately with my new girlfriend during the first few times that we had sex. But I am still not 100% guaranteed to get a full erection with her! And ejaculation only happens maybe 50% of the time. Because of these occasional problems, I get very stressed every time things start going towards sex (she wants to do it quite often). I feel a lot of pressure about performing.
As a result, I am not really looking forward to having sex with her! I am afraid of a failure! I have this fear even though most of the time everything goes fine.
This is bothering me. A man should really want sex, right?! I am embarrassed that my girlfriend wants it more than I do. Could my low libido be a consequence of a performance anxiety? Or am I just flatlining? Is there anything I can do about it? Should we focus on cuddling instead of having sex?
As a result, I am not really looking forward to having sex with her! I am afraid of a failure! I have this fear even though most of the time everything goes fine.
This is bothering me. A man should really want sex, right?! I am embarrassed that my girlfriend wants it more than I do. Could my low libido be a consequence of a performance anxiety? Or am I just flatlining? Is there anything I can do about it? Should we focus on cuddling instead of having sex?