Virgin PornED

[BeckKate]

Hello Gabe and
First of all thanks for all your usefull videos as well as the tips that you have been giving through this forum..
Here is my story:

I haven't watched porn in 4 months and 15 days (since january 14)
I really feel that the porn is out of my life for good since i haven't got any urge to even type a porn website, in the beginning was pretty hard to stay away but as the time passed by has gotten ridicusly easier

The period of these 4 months and 15 days i have intentionally fapped  around 4 times(i used neither visual stimulation nor mental stimulation ,fantasies etc) Also, i had a lot of wet dreams which are around 10-12 maybe more i dont quite remember.
The thing is the last two times that i fapped i wash't horny whatsoever, i mean i hadh't u know that feeling when you can't resist even though both times i was really hard but i wash't feeling horny, does that means that i was in flatline? does this fucks up my whole process to get here? even though i do get hard from sensation i still dont get aroused by Real girls i do not feel that i want to fuck a girl even if she is really hot.
When i was younger i would get a boner just by a random thought.
However i haven't been with any girl these 4 months and as i stated in the title iam a virgin, shall i try to find a girl to wire to the Real thing or should i wait until i feel aroused? at the moment i do not have any libido.


Some things about me:
Iam in a good shape and around 14% bf i do not eat crap food and i have a balanced diet
Supplements that iam currently taking is

ZMA and Orange Triad(is a multivitamin)

What's your thoughts guys? please help me because this whole thing mess with my mind :/

 

[BeckKate]

Bump! Come on guys! nobody could give me some advice?

 

[Gabe Deem]

@ BeckKate

  i was really hard but i wash't feeling horny, does that means that i was in flatline? does this fucks up my whole process to get here?

It does sound like you are in a flat-line. But no, masturbating without porn does not mess up the reboot if you can easily get hard to touch alone.

I would definitely pursue a loving partner. Always a good idea. Maybe go a few weeks no M/O and see how you feel. Let the wet dreams keep... coming. They're completely natural and probably will slow down in frequency.

Thanks for the kind words... Welcome to the Nation.

 

[BeckKate]

@ BeckKate

  i was really hard but i wash't feeling horny, does that means that i was in flatline? does this fucks up my whole process to get here?

It does sound like you are in a flat-line. But no, masturbating without porn does not mess up the reboot if you can easily get hard to touch alone.

I would definitely pursue a loving partner. Always a good idea. Maybe go a few weeks no M/O and see how you feel. Let the wet dreams keep... coming. They're completely natural and probably will slow down in frequency.

Thanks for the kind words... Welcome to the Nation.

Thanks gabe for your respond mate!
Yeah iam going to follow your advice re go without M/O a couple more months to see what's gonna happen.! in the meantime i will try to find a partner since i dont know if i encounter such situation am i going to get hard or not.
Yeah i can get hard by touch and physical stimulation but i still haven't figure out whether i can get hard by girl's hands or not, after my 4th masturbation which was 5 days ago i feel that iam flat lining so i will let it as it is until i get aroused,
gabe does forcing an erecction while u are in flat Line make things worse? you know that damn flatline can take forever, even though i dont have any urge to watch porn and masturbate i feel that i still haven't adjust and wire myself to the Real thing! i gotta find a girlfriend asap!!

 

[Gabe Deem]

@ BeckKate

i can get hard by touch and physical stimulation but i still haven't figure out whether i can get hard by girl's hands or not, after my 4th masturbation which was 5 days ago i feel that iam flat lining so i will let it as it is until i get aroused,

It is very important to know that stress and depression can really kill a guys sex drive so just relax and stick to the program. The fact that you can get hard to touch alone is a GREAT sign. Most guys say they do not realize they are recovered until they are with a girl and get an erection.

does forcing an erecction while u are in flat Line make things worse?

Probably. If you have no desire to masurbate then why force it? If you can't get an erection easily without porn then it is probably not your natural sex drive desiring a release but rather your brain craving porn and stimulation. My thoughts are:

1) If your body "needs" a release then masturbating without porn should not have to be "forced"

2) If your body "needs" a release you will have a wet dream.

even though i dont have any urge to watch porn and masturbate i feel that i still haven't adjust and wire myself to the Real thing! i gotta find a girlfriend asap!

You should have some natural wiring to the "real thing." And if you can get it up to touch alone then you will probably get it up to a girls touch alone. Also, do not have the mindset of using a girl to re-wire with. My advice is to pursue a loving partner who you can be honest and yourself with. Be patient, stick with the reboot, and try and relax. You are doing great.