unlovedwife
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I need to vent about my recent experiences. Like most of you I have a partner with PA and have been left feeling disgusting and worthless most of the time. For the last two years I have been not good enough for him, and he's told me that I am the reason he uses porn.
I have caught him lying to me all the time, covering up his addiction and stealing money from me to continue it. He has lost his job over it (free wifi at work = he sits in he mens for hours) and cannot hold a new one for very long. He is at home by himself, leaving those wonderful tiny semen stains in his underwear again. Our lease expired, I told him it was the end of the year to work things out. I'm sick of confronting him to be told "I'll stop" only to catch him again, sick of feeling useless and ugly.
My husband has moved into the spare room (I love him so much and he is a fantastic person, maybe we can still be friends when his sexual preference (of porn over real women) won't hurt me so much). Four days in, I'm working two jobs and finally get half a day off (after 19 days working), so I take an afternoon nap in what is now my bed in my room.
My subconscious decided to give me a really vivid dream, it wasn't a nightmare because it has happened and would continue to happen if I gave the man that I love more than anything in the world another chance. I dreamed that we were working together in a new place, while he was at work I was setting up the house and I was SO happy, contented and loving. I was putting things in the kitchen cupboards of our new house and singing while I did it. I was putting the empty boxes in the spare room when I found porn, lots of it, in the style he prefers. I found magazines, dvds, masturbatory aids and lots of pictures of women. In the dream I cried until I vomited, the hot rage and betrayal washing over me in thunderous waves. In reality, I had vomited on the bed and woke choking on my vomit. When I woke up, I felt the betrayal and rage still. I still feel it receding now. I wanted to kill myself, more specifically to hang myself. I even got as far as identifying where I could do it and what with. Porn addiction is hell for partners. I am now a suicidal mess. If your partner will get help, please do it. I am dying on the inside, my subconscious poisoned to this extent by the constant lies and betrayals of someone I love. I still feel worthless, ugly and inadequate, I'm going to have to go to the hospital over this before it gets any worse. Please do not let this happen to you.
I have caught him lying to me all the time, covering up his addiction and stealing money from me to continue it. He has lost his job over it (free wifi at work = he sits in he mens for hours) and cannot hold a new one for very long. He is at home by himself, leaving those wonderful tiny semen stains in his underwear again. Our lease expired, I told him it was the end of the year to work things out. I'm sick of confronting him to be told "I'll stop" only to catch him again, sick of feeling useless and ugly.
My husband has moved into the spare room (I love him so much and he is a fantastic person, maybe we can still be friends when his sexual preference (of porn over real women) won't hurt me so much). Four days in, I'm working two jobs and finally get half a day off (after 19 days working), so I take an afternoon nap in what is now my bed in my room.
My subconscious decided to give me a really vivid dream, it wasn't a nightmare because it has happened and would continue to happen if I gave the man that I love more than anything in the world another chance. I dreamed that we were working together in a new place, while he was at work I was setting up the house and I was SO happy, contented and loving. I was putting things in the kitchen cupboards of our new house and singing while I did it. I was putting the empty boxes in the spare room when I found porn, lots of it, in the style he prefers. I found magazines, dvds, masturbatory aids and lots of pictures of women. In the dream I cried until I vomited, the hot rage and betrayal washing over me in thunderous waves. In reality, I had vomited on the bed and woke choking on my vomit. When I woke up, I felt the betrayal and rage still. I still feel it receding now. I wanted to kill myself, more specifically to hang myself. I even got as far as identifying where I could do it and what with. Porn addiction is hell for partners. I am now a suicidal mess. If your partner will get help, please do it. I am dying on the inside, my subconscious poisoned to this extent by the constant lies and betrayals of someone I love. I still feel worthless, ugly and inadequate, I'm going to have to go to the hospital over this before it gets any worse. Please do not let this happen to you.