Aussie_Rebooter
Member
Starting a journal because I feel like I need an outlet to write my struggles and progress during my reboot.
I've known about Porn Addiction since late 2012 - longest streak was 94 days.Since then I've struggled to even make it a few weeks.Currently on my second longest streak and this will be my final reboot.
What I'm really struggling with now is the withdrawals - it's hitting me really hard.Depression,Anxiety,lack of motivation "everything seems boring and pointless",endless boredom,fatigue.Ive suffered from all of these symptoms for years but when I stop - everything gets worse.What this does is bring up doubts in my mind that Porn isn't the problem - that maybe I'm just fucked up beyond repair and I'll never get better.
Even though I know deep down that's not true - it's very hard to see a way out when you've been trapped in hell for so many years.
The last week has been extremely draining - I've developed really bad insomnia - which compounds everything and pisses me off! After going through the day I can't sleep at night and my mind starts racing.
My use over the last few years got really bad - most days were spent edging,3,4 - 10+ hour sessions.Porn was the only thing I cared about in life,the only thing that gave me any false sense of happiness.
Something awesome has happened though,a month ago my X gf from a decade ago contacted me and we've been talking a lot - I've fallen in love with her again,and she feels the same way.I admitted my addiction to her,showed her YBOP,gabes vids etc and tried to explain my situation as best I could.Her understanding and support has been really overwhelming and humbling and basically...it's the reason I've been able to stay clean for nearly a month.
What I have to do now is be very strict on myself,exercise,meditation,looking for a job,forcing myself to go and hang out with my mates,reading,eating healthy - I have to adapt all of these things within the next few weeks or I can really see myself fucking up.
I see this - rebooting,getting back with my GF - as a second chance at life so I'm going for it.
But this shit sucks,there's no getting around it.I feel like a space cadet zombie with no life in me at all.My dick is shriveled up,cold and changes color - rebooting for an addict is the worst hell I've ever experienced and I'm never going to have to deal with it again.I just have to be smart about this shit and have the faith that it'll all work out if I put the effort in.
I do have ED,but not severely.Due to my crazy usage (half day edging sessions,escalation to diff genres) I can only put this down to one thing - past sexual experience.Which I've had a lot of.My erections during sex are far from healthy though - but I guess I reached a point where I didn't care - because I figured I was so broken that I wouldn't be able to get a GF anyway,so who cares if my dick doesn't work?
I had some tests done a few weeks ago - full STD screen (I've slept with pro's but have been single for a decade) a full blood count,thyroid - I got the all clear.
My advice to anyone reading this would be to stop using the shit.It really is a wicked wicked addiction and it will take everything from you - just like hard drugs it destroys lives - and the deeper you go,the more fucked up your life gets.Theres no end to it,the hole just gets deeper.
I'll leave it at that for my first post.Its nearly 8 in the morning and I still haven't slept.Ill be posting regularly and contributing to the forum - I really need a place where I can connect with others going through similar shit.
Aussie.
I've known about Porn Addiction since late 2012 - longest streak was 94 days.Since then I've struggled to even make it a few weeks.Currently on my second longest streak and this will be my final reboot.
What I'm really struggling with now is the withdrawals - it's hitting me really hard.Depression,Anxiety,lack of motivation "everything seems boring and pointless",endless boredom,fatigue.Ive suffered from all of these symptoms for years but when I stop - everything gets worse.What this does is bring up doubts in my mind that Porn isn't the problem - that maybe I'm just fucked up beyond repair and I'll never get better.
Even though I know deep down that's not true - it's very hard to see a way out when you've been trapped in hell for so many years.
The last week has been extremely draining - I've developed really bad insomnia - which compounds everything and pisses me off! After going through the day I can't sleep at night and my mind starts racing.
My use over the last few years got really bad - most days were spent edging,3,4 - 10+ hour sessions.Porn was the only thing I cared about in life,the only thing that gave me any false sense of happiness.
Something awesome has happened though,a month ago my X gf from a decade ago contacted me and we've been talking a lot - I've fallen in love with her again,and she feels the same way.I admitted my addiction to her,showed her YBOP,gabes vids etc and tried to explain my situation as best I could.Her understanding and support has been really overwhelming and humbling and basically...it's the reason I've been able to stay clean for nearly a month.
What I have to do now is be very strict on myself,exercise,meditation,looking for a job,forcing myself to go and hang out with my mates,reading,eating healthy - I have to adapt all of these things within the next few weeks or I can really see myself fucking up.
I see this - rebooting,getting back with my GF - as a second chance at life so I'm going for it.
But this shit sucks,there's no getting around it.I feel like a space cadet zombie with no life in me at all.My dick is shriveled up,cold and changes color - rebooting for an addict is the worst hell I've ever experienced and I'm never going to have to deal with it again.I just have to be smart about this shit and have the faith that it'll all work out if I put the effort in.
I do have ED,but not severely.Due to my crazy usage (half day edging sessions,escalation to diff genres) I can only put this down to one thing - past sexual experience.Which I've had a lot of.My erections during sex are far from healthy though - but I guess I reached a point where I didn't care - because I figured I was so broken that I wouldn't be able to get a GF anyway,so who cares if my dick doesn't work?
I had some tests done a few weeks ago - full STD screen (I've slept with pro's but have been single for a decade) a full blood count,thyroid - I got the all clear.
My advice to anyone reading this would be to stop using the shit.It really is a wicked wicked addiction and it will take everything from you - just like hard drugs it destroys lives - and the deeper you go,the more fucked up your life gets.Theres no end to it,the hole just gets deeper.
I'll leave it at that for my first post.Its nearly 8 in the morning and I still haven't slept.Ill be posting regularly and contributing to the forum - I really need a place where I can connect with others going through similar shit.
Aussie.