To Recover(ed/ing) Early Porn Users: Flatline Questions

[CrowMagnum]

Hey ya'll, I'm a recovering PMOr who started daily before puberty and kept that up (pun unintended) for a decade or so.  Been trying to recover for a while now.  I'm in a flatline and becoming impatient.  I'm 61 days into a strong "streak" and the majority of this time has been flatline.  How long did your flatlines last for?  How many flatlines did you have?  How did you cope?  How did you get yourself to feel like a person while flatlining?  Did you do any self-improvement that helped you get through it?  If so, what did you do?  Did you flatline severely more than once?  What did your overall recovery process look like?  If you were with an SO while you were in flatline, did that help?  I'm pursuing someone at the moment and it's been mostly a source of stress.  Did any of you pursue someone while in flatline?  How did it go?  Do you think it was a positive thing to do for you in hindsight (both regardless and taking into account how it turned out)?  Do you have any tips for someone dealing with other issues in general while in flatline?  For those of you who attempted to deal with childhood trauma and abuse while recovering from PMO as well how did you go about doing that, how did you keep up your self work in that area while in flatline?  I know this is a lot, if you can answer even one question I will greatly appreciate it. 

 

[Numez]

i was 10 month pmo free before relapsing. i experienced flatline in multiple occasions, usually after Oing (sex). it can last for 3 months or up to 6-9 months so dont even think about it, it will just pass. i didnt felt like person nor im feeling right now, its part of the process no escaping that one. we are fucking addicts what we could expect after stopping a decade long addiction? my overall process always looks non linear, some good days and some bad days. what is SO? i had occasional sex, once per week or less if it has something to do with it. no Oing first 3 months. its good to have girl or girls for rewiring.

i ran out of tips for dealing with withdrawal symptoms and flatlining. whatever i try it always comes down to the point that this process of quitting sucks and we must face it as it is. no running away from it. actually i relapsed whenever i tried 'something' but this time i feel stronger and i will make it because im not relaying on any tip, just on the awareness of what is going on.

me personally, i find myself extremely active on this forum but its not a tip. some guys say this reminds them of PMOing and actually stop visiting. everyone is different and when you are ready to face your demons without any guard, you might discover for yourself what can help YOU.

education is the key, it will not reduce the suffering but it will help you observe it and go through it. education is extremely important. listen to gary wilson, gabe deem, noah church.... read YBOP articles. watch and read multiple times same thing and also watch different videos and read different articles on the same subject. its definitely the key to success and lack of it was the reason of my every relapse.

i think i just gave you a tip after all no tips and tricks talk 8)

gl^hf

 

[CrowMagnum]

haha, thanks a lot Numez! It's good to know this whole flatline thing will be a while just so I can buckle down and bear it and not worry about being broken or whatever.  SO means significant other, as in someone you're in a relationship with.  I will definitely look into the science behind it again as it has been some time since I last did so.  Brushing up will definitely help.  Cheers!