No PMO no P forever

[Paddrecon]

Dear all,

I have started my struggle with quitting porn more than a year ago, and relapsed a few times in this period. In my latest trial I have been abstaining from PMO for 28 days and P/P substitutes for 22 days as of now. I also do not want to sleep with hookers or escorts and I have changed my view about girls. As a result now I have a girlfriend; however I am still having PIED when having sex with her and full intercourse is not that possible. We jerk each other off or perform oral sex on each other. This may also be due to the SSRI medication I have been taking for my anxiety disorder, because I am tapering it off now and things are starting to turn normal. The moral is quitting porn has made my life a lot better and I also began to enjoy regular things instead of spending endless hours in front of the screen looking for a new stimuli.

 

[Paddrecon]

So far so good guys I hope I encourage you that this is doable.  I am having a really loving relationship I do not take anti-depressants anymore and have given up porn completely. I will keep on posting to keep myself on track.

 

[Paddrecon]

Damn it guys I have relapsed a few minutes ago.  :'( Yesterday night I began to browse for stockings fetish and then I saw some pictures of sexy women in stockings which led me to browse escort-ads then I finally porn. I did not masturbate or touched my dick then, but in the morning I felt an extreme need to browse these pictures and videos again, so I launched my browser and did so. I began to get immense pleasure and could not resist it, but did not stroke myself regularly. However, I came without stroking myself, just by looking at the videos and I felt disgusted about myself after 48 days of abstinence. Let me also remind you that I have a lovely girlfriend with whom I cannot have sex due to erectile dysfunction and she is not happy with it.

I think I relapsed as follows:

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[*]I get extremely frustrated when I could not get a solid erection and maintain it with my GF.
[*]My GF went away for some time and I got very very horny.
[*]I was looking at nyloned legs of women on the street, in the campus etc.
[*]I said what harm can happen if I just searched stockings fetish.
[*]I came across some pictures of women in stocking.
[*]I wanted to make REALLY sure my dick worked.
[*]The chain got unleashed.


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[Paddrecon]

Guys first WET DREAM EVER after a very long time  My girlfriend is abroad and I am not watching porn; however, I am masturbating a bit regularly in order not to kill the drive. Last night out of blue(actually I rubbed myself against the bed before sleeping) I had a wet dream which felt great although I came into my pants. It has been 18 days and I think this is some solid progress.

My girlfriend is a bit hurt, but I think we can manage everything, she is currently abroad and she is oblivious to my porn issues. She is a very understanding girl and I think I might disclose this to her although I know she hates porn at a deep level. Even during our relationship I watched porn a couple of times and if I admit that things might turn out really bad between us. What do you say?

 

[Paddrecon]

Okay damn it guys I am standing my ground but having really really rough days as I broke up with my girlfriend. Most of our problems were of sexual nature: i.e my lack of erection, passion etc. although I loved her dearly. Now I glimpsed at escort ads a few times, yet I am feeling very lonely.

 

[Paddrecon]

Okay I am browsing some dating sites to meet real women in order to channel my sexual energy. So far I have not looked at any porn substitutes and I abstain from escorts. However, I feel really lethargic and as if I have no penis and sexual desire. Is it normal? I masturbated for the last two days to see if everything was working, but now I am thinking of quitting that habit of mine too.

 

[nretzlaff]

Hey man sorry about your girl, I know that can be rough. In my opinion you need to accept that you will not be able to fight this addiction or issue alone. You need some outside help. I highly suggest checking out a Sex Addicts Anonymous meeting. I have been to a few so far and I have found it to be incredibly helpful. I was skeptical at first but having real life discussions about this with others dealing with the addiction might be the grounding you need. I certainly needed it after years of lying, watching porn, and contacting escorts. I wish you the best of luck man, message me anytime if you wanna chat

 

[Paddrecon]

Hey man sorry about your girl, I know that can be rough. In my opinion you need to accept that you will not be able to fight this addiction or issue alone. You need some outside help. I highly suggest checking out a Sex Addicts Anonymous meeting. I have been to a few so far and I have found it to be incredibly helpful. I was skeptical at first but having real life discussions about this with others dealing with the addiction might be the grounding you need. I certainly needed it after years of lying, watching porn, and contacting escorts. I wish you the best of luck man, message me anytime if you wanna chat

Yes due to bad sex and a bit of being clingy on my side she ditched me for good. Everything aside I could not have sex with her over a period of one and half a month which really sucks. Today I browsed a bit of escort sites and porn sites to check if everything is fine without touching. It was as if I did not have a penis and I did not get aroused, my sex drive is low. After getting dumped to ED I need to prove myself that I can have vaginal sex with a woman and hence I browsed escort sites. Anyways I am in a hard situation right now and I avoid PMO at all costs. We may chat our convenience if you wish, for the girlfriend part it seems that we salvaged the friendship.

 

[Paddrecon]

Hello guys,

I am still having trouble getting intimate with real-life girls and I consulted an urologist due to my low libido and erectile dysfunction. All the blood tests turned out to be normal; however, I cannot eat well these days to my IBS kicking back again. I am afraid that GERD and gastritis will return. I have been looking at various porn substitutes and escort ads. Actually I could not help myself and visited an escort. The experience was nice and the sex was more fulfilling than the sex with my girlfriend. Is this normal? I thought I was really emotionally attached to that girl and I really miss her, yet I know that she has gone forever.

I always have the urge to masturbate or look at porn substitutes, yet I cannot come as much as I used to. I think this also has something to do with my poor diet and bad lifestyle. Although I am participating actively in sports I hardly find time to relax and I am pretty stressed these days.

 

[Paddrecon]

Salutations everyone

I am really making progress and the medicine Trental seems to work. However, these days I am really moody as hell and I avoid porn at all costs. I just made a quick Google search about sexual desire and glimpsed at a few sexual questions on forums out of curiosity. However, no one seems to have as low libido as mine at my age(25). This is really weird and I am beginning to worry if I will ever be normal again. I am also trying to stay away from masturbation and orgasm, yet I fail at times. I have also been to an escort twice. I would really like to hear your opinions on my situation.